I'm feel like I'm on the island of misfit toys...

**WARNING...PITY PARTY AHEAD**

I feel like I'm the last kid being picked at recess...again. A while back I posted something about me planning on having MGB. My mind was set...this is what I was going to do! Then I received a few (what I like to call) nasty-grams telling me that I hadn't done my research, that MGB was not a good surgery, and basically they planted the seed that I was going to fail. I posted something on the main forum a little while ago, and someone suggested that I come here and post instead (did they not want me?)

I am supposed to be on my liver reduction diet, but I have failed (again) tremendously! I think that it's the meds (had a very very bad cold/flu thing that the doc put me on steroids to help with the coughing), but not I'm wondering if I am just sabotaging myself...again. I was supposed to lose 10 lbs by tomorrow, but I know I have probably GAINED 10 lbs, I'm too scared to go weigh.


I need some inspiration...I need someone to tell me that they have had MGB and it is working for them...I need someone to tell me that they have walked in my shoes.

I want to live, and I know that this surgery is my last resort.

Help?
 

BTW, I'm sure that the person on the main forum was just being helpful...but I'm so depressed right now, it just sorta feels like I had sand kicked in my face :(

Hi tthere,

Yea people who haven't done THEIR research will tell you it's a bad surgery.  There is so much documentation out there to prove otherwise.  This surgery is being done all over the world with fantastic results.  Very few gain their weight back and barring any other complication, have great success.  All surgeries have their risks.

Hang in there.  The nay sayers will always be out there regardless of what the issue or topic is.

Thanks ShoutJoy, you have no idea how much better you made me feel

((hug))

Trust yourself....everyone has an opinion....yours is the only one that matters :) You can do this. 

Hi, I am sorry you are having a hard time! I had the MGB and it has been amazing for me. I have never, ever regretted the decision.  I had the option of having insurance pay for the RNY with a local doctor, and chose instead to take out a loan and have the MGB. Yes, I DID MY RESEARCH!  Everything I found out made me even more definite that the MGB was right for me. It was safer, which was the biggest determining factor for me.

I have had tremendous success, had surgery in 2003 and am less than half my original size at around 165LBS. I am now finally looking into having some plastic surgery to get my body to where it should be after massive weight loss.

Feel free to e-mail me off line at kmlenhardt at hotmail dot com and please put mini gastric bypass in subject line as I do get lots of junk mail that's hard to sift through.

Hang in there and do what YOU think is the right thing for you!

Kathryn

Thank you Kathryn! My insurance will pay for either, and after doing my research and talking to the doctors, counselors and nutritionist, I KNOW MGB is the best surgery for me.

I will keep your email addy and thanks for sharing it!!

((hugs to all))

Heres my 2 cents worth of tough-love inspiration...hope it is received with the love in which it is intended....

First of all, dont beat yourself up about things you cant control (like getting sick) and dont consider yourself a failure,,,,maybe youre just doing research on 101 ways it wont work, lol. Life is about perspecive, start seeing yourself in a new light....You can do this!

Now about feeling like a misfit toy or the last kid picked at recess....This probably isnt the first time youve felt this way and it probably wont be the last since being an obese person in the US already feels quite similar (even though we are the majority at this point). Keep in mind that SOON you wont have to feel like that anymore. Keep your chin up and just remember to be kind to those tomorrow who are still where you are today! (sounds like a famous quote but I just made that up lol)

Never be scared to weigh yourself since hiding your head in the sand wont change the result. Seeing the number might be just the motivation you need to pull yourself back up by the boot-straps. Your life is on the line, you CAN do it! 

I havent had the MGB yet and I too am praying that it will be the answer for me but I can tell you that I have walked in your shoes and you are not alone. Im already thankful for this place and the generous people so willing to share their experience and their pain along with thier advice whether solicited or not. The bottom line is that you are the only one who has to live with the consequenses of your decision, so even if you have MGB and find it isnt right for you, at least you will know that it wont be because so-n-so told you it would solve all your problems.

Personally, I would love to be able to stand up and say hey, I did it on my own, I ate right, I exercised my patootie off and I took control of my weight problem without WLS but the fact is that I havent been able to do that in 26years. I need help, and thank God we live in a place and time where we have options and can educate ourselves and choose what we feel will work best for us...not so long ago that wasnt the case. 

As for choosing MGB over other methods, well thats the direction Im heading in and Ive done a lot of research on this...every time I weigh the pros and cons, I come back to MGB. Take other peoples comments and weigh their opinion with the information youve already accumulated and do whats right for you, win lose or draw it has to be your decision.

I imagine the forums are categorized by surgery method for that very reason. When choosing a WLS, we are all placing our futures in the hands of this decision so its completely expected for everyone to have some bias toward the decision they made personally. It comes with the territory so dont let it get to you, just do your research and you'll know whats right for you.

Wishing you the best results whichever way you decide to go and keeping you in my prayers for the strength to reach your goals! Angela

Thank you Angela, you have no idea how good you made me feel. I feel that MGB is the right decision for me, and I pray that you too will find peace in your decision. (AND WE ARE GOING TO DO THIS!!) 

When I wrote this post, I was feeling really depressed (sort of a compilation of things, along with not feeling well still and you know, when you don't feel good, EVERYTHING is magnified 2 gazillion percent. Folks offering their advice, which felt like I was being beat up instead,  I felt like a fool) I'm feeling SO much better now, I surrounded myself with positive people and my fear is slowly subsiding...slowly...s l o w l y ... S    L    O    W    L    Y (smile)

That's ok...I KNOW everything will be ok. EVERYTHING always works out!!

Thank you again for your advice...now...can you help me get thru this Nursing School thing...LOLOL

  ((no real purpose for this, except it makes me laugh, LOL))

Hi Lisa, Whenever we dare to do something different, some metaphysical scientist(S) will embark on telling us how it could effect a change in the cosmic rays and or refer to the Mayan Calendar of doom! In retrospect these soothsayers may perform a valuable service.  They come to test our level of commitment.  If you notice, the more tentative you feel, the more pessimistic they sound.  If they succeed in discouraging you, be grateful.  You didn't have the moxie to make it in the first place.  This is good information to have.  It means you need to go back and tune up your intention or let go of what's holding you back.  On the other hand, if you're determined to succeed in spite of these killjoys, then you most certainly will. If you need some inspiration I would suggest that “proofs in the pudding" read the “my journey" section for the MGB’ers and you will get a thousand reasons why people went with the MGB. I would look at how their lives used to be and then ask myself if I had a choice to make a difference would I take it? Essentially they way I would look at it is do I feel I deserve to make a difference to myself? What will I do when this change occurs? And how will I use it to create positive attributes to myself and others around me. If you feel this help you then you have a choice. Bernard Shaw had it right when he said “Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself". Regards, Napoli