Question about recovery?

I posted this on the RYN board too. I am just tring to get as many answers as I can. Thanks in advance Hello to all, I have a pretty important question, that I hope you all can answer for me? I have my lap RYN surgery on Sept 11th, YAY!! I am so excited to finally get my life back! Problem with this is, my dh Will be deployed at the time of surgery, and about 6mos after. I have 3 kids( incase you didnt catch my screen name! lol), their ages are 6,5 and 1. My mom will be here(Germany) right before the surgery and will leave less then a week after. Then that day she leaves, I have some wonderful ladies from my dhs works coming here to help a few hrs a day for about a week. My question to you all is, Will I be ok to take care of my kids with out any kind of help 2 weeks after my surgery? I am more concerend about my baby, after all she is still not walking. So I have to carry her everywhere, and pick her up outta her crib, carry her up/down the stairs, ect.. I am just wanting to make sure my kids will be Ok. Any help would be greatly apprecitated -Mary

Dear Mary, Although I do not have young children, I did not have any help after the surgery. The only concern I would have would be the lifting. A plus is that you are having it lap instead of open. Good luck. I wish I could help you more. Linda

The lifting worries me too. It sounds like its very soon to being going up and down stairs with a baby on you hip at 2 weeks. Is there anyway you can e-mail someone at your doctors office so they can give you a definite yes or no?

I only had a lifting restriction for the first week after surgery. Then i was good to go.

Hi Mary! I'm just over 2 weeks out (16 days) and with 3 kids (8,6 and 8 months) I too was worried about carrying my baby. The first week my mom too was with me (my DH is deployed). But after that I was just fine carrying her. I can carry her up and down the stairs just fine too. I think it really depends on how you are feeling. If you feel just fine walking up and down the stairs by yourself, you are probably okay doing with your baby. Listen to your body and listen to your surgeon. I only had lifting restrictions for the first week. HTH! Andi

Could you hire a young girl to come in for a couple of hours in the afternoons so you can get some rest? At lest 2 or 3 days that 3rd week. That is probably going to be the biggest thing you will need. I feel for you having to deal with surgery while your DH is gone. On the plus side, you might lose enough weight to compensate for her weight by the 3rd week. We don't realize how hard it is to pack ourselves around until we lose it and and then carry something and realize we have been packing that around for a long time. She could be walking by then also. You will still be picking her up, but maybe not as much. I wish I could come and help you. I would like to help everyone. Its a little too far I'm afraid. and I am not much good cause I can't pick up my grandkids. But I hope the thought counts some. Diana