Have you found it difficult??

For most of us (if not all) we are away from family. Having WLS is a very huge thing. For those post op, have you found it hard being away from family through all this?? Erica

To be honest I think I found it easier. If my husband had been here I think he would have made me more nervous because he would have been so nervous. As for the rest of my family not being around I think it made it easier for me because I got to have quiet. I have always been kind of an independent girl though, so my experience probaly differs from others.

I am having surgery on Monday, and luckily my fiance was able to take two weeks of leave. We are very fortunate he's on shore duty right now, I can't imagine doing this if he had been deployed. I am 2,000 miles away from my family, and would be lost without him during this. I know my mom would have come up, but I am glad she doesn't have to spend the money (she doesn't really have it, and she's coming up here in July for my wedding) and that my sweet boy can take care of me.

I think that being a military spouse has made it easier. No dealing with catty people who knew you when...it's easier to pick and choose who you tell, and if you tell the wrong person, you know that one of you will PCS within the next couple of years, lol. It's also easier not having extended family breathing down my throat, analysing what I eat and don't eat, and trying to "help me". Don't get me wrong - they are supportive, but my mil had her own issues when my weight went below hers for the first time in all the years she's known me. I have enough trouble dealing with my own issues and feelings of body dysmorphia without having to deal with others.

I am still preop.. surgery on May 24th. I am finding that since I started this process I am all alone, I have family about an hour or so away but I dont see them much.. They are into drinking all the time and I cant be around that . Since I havent told my husband and he is in Korea for another year I just feel so alone in this and there is no one to talk to about it. I think not being around family is a good thing for me considering I dont want to fall back into the habbits of drinking and parting every weekend. I do wish my hubby was. K

I am pre op as well and also having surgery without my husband around (deployed) and without him knowing. if i were to tell him that I'm going through with the surgery, he would do anything to talk me out of it... not because he doesn't love me and doesn't want me healthy... but becuase he wants me alive, he doesn't see the benefits, only the risks. I can't take a chance on him talking me out of being healthy and living again. Once he sees that Its done and over and I'm still alive and becoming healthy, I think he'll be supportive, but i wish he was supportive in the first place. On the other hand... I am very grateful to have a wonderful family who supports me and a Mother who has already gone through this almost 2 years ago. Krissy

Well, I'm living in NC. My parents are in Pennsylvania and my husband is in Iraq. My mom was with with me for the first week of my recovery because my surgeon won't let us stay alone for the first week. There are times that I wish my mom was still here because she's the one who pushed me to get off my butt and do things. My husband on the other hand, is a different story. I love him to death, but he'd be here babying me and waiting on me hand and foot. I chose to do this while he was gone, he knows about me having the surgery and wasn't too happy about me doing it with him gone, because he's been so worried about whether I'd make it out ok. Now that he sees that I have, he's ok. It's also nice not being around too many friends and other family members because I'm sick and tired of explaining myself and getting critiqued all the time. I actually quit my job because my boss was so rude and ignorant about me having the surgery. Have you had your surgery yet? If not, when is the date? Do you have one yet? I had mine on March 27th. My husband has been gone since August and wont be home until November...he's in for a shock when he gets home lol ~*Amber*~

My husband doesn't currently know about the surgery, he knows i'm thinking about it... but he doesn't know that i'm 100 % doing it. If he did he'd be completely against it. Well i guess maybe not completely against it and i know that he would let me do it... but not without a lot of hesitation and a bit of trying to talk me out of it. My husband has been in Iraq (Bahrain) since January, but will be back in July... He will be in Virginia though, and I will be here... So I think I'm still going to do it without him knowing, Hopefully I will have my surgery well before Mid july so that I dont have to find an excuse what I'm doing the day i have surgery... I REALLY want to surprise him... I want to lose at least a little before I see him again... Which will probably be in August or September. So hopefully I'll be able to have it in June and be a couple months out before he sees me again... I'm sure he'll be pleasently surprised. Wow your hubby is over there for quite a long tour huh... that must suck I'm sorry hun. At least mine gets 3 months at home (well in the states, not home exactly) before he has to go back out. Krissy