I am soooooo happy! Or so I thought.

Hi I am new to this forum but I love everyone in it already. So I finally have a date for my surgery. April 19 to be exact. I am feeling bitter sweet though. Because my 5 year old will be turning 6 on that day too. Do any of you think its selfish of me to keep this date for surgery? Now as I am writing this I am starting to feel bad. Honestly now I dont know what to do now. I dont want to have it later because I have a family vacation planned on May 26 and I want a month in between that and my surgery to feel better. Otherwise I'd have to wait untill after June when we get back and that is tooo far away. I have waited tooo long for this. And I cant have it sooner because my father is financing in the first week of April. What if I pass away in my surgery my death will be on the same day as my sons birthday. I shouldnt do it. Ok well thanks for letting me vent my worries. I think I know what I have to do now. Bye

Someone told me they were so happy to see me do something about my weight... it was the first/only thing they saw me do for myself... I cater/party/wedding all the time and my hub of existance is my grandfather and son. My son's secure future is what I use as a guiding tool on my choices. No one, not even my closest friends or family members know I has WLS. So, when this friend told me they were happy I did something for myself, I believed them. You aren't likely to pass away on your son's birthday. But if you did, he would know you were trying to better yourself, and possibly, your family.

Thank you for your reassurence. It was exactly what I needed to hear. I am gald I signed up in this forum everbody is great and understands oneanother. Thank you again.

Gabriela, I am currently seeing a therapist and this is what she told me. You will be a better parent if you are happy. Your happiness will flow to your children. They feel your unhappiness without you ever saying a word. Little people are pretty intuitive. If it were me, I would have a celebration a few days earlier than his real birthday. He will love having the party early or may not even realize it is early if you don't tell him it is early. Then go and help yourself and that will be the biggest and best present your child will ever get. You know the old saying " If mama isn't happy nobody's happy." I believe that too. Just my thoughts. Best wishes, Kim M.

Celebrate a birthday with your soon to be six year old early. Pick a date before you leave for the surgery, tell your child that is the day you are celebrating his/her birthday -- and let your child know that they are special. And they are loved. That is what is important. Since you are making the surgery plans so far ahead of time, see if Dr. Rumbaut's office can move it up or back just one day. Sometimes they can accomodate you. -Pam