(((( Farmgirl58 ))))  vent away if you like..  others on here may or may not jump in.  Sorry you are having such a struggle.  I hope/pray that your appointment with the psychologist helps greatly.  I think that is was very wise to open up to your physician and allow them to help you.. even if it was a break down and maybe not your intent.   You are not alone.. many of us have a hard time adjusting to LIFE and what it brings to us.  A cry out for help is NEVER anything to be ashamed of, but actually an act of COURAGE!

~~hugsss~~

Hello dear friends, not sure if this is the site I need to refer to on occassion, but am having a really bad time with depression and emotional eating...
I have had the realize band surgery almost two years ago, needed to lose approx 115 lbs...so far have lost about 58.  By this date I should have had at least 75% of my excess weight off, but due to emotional problems and LIFE, have been at a platue for over 6 months.
What I am looking for is a sounding board to vent my frustrations, disappointments and failures in life.  I am having problems with work, relationships, and most of all finances.  I broke down in my doctors office yesterday, and they were really great folks.  They listened and got me an appointment to see a psychologist who specializes in WLS emotional problems.  I wake up crying, go to bed crying, have sad thoughts during the day and start crying...I HATE FEELING THIS WAY!! 
I will be seeing the psyc. this coming week.  But I do need a venting formun to get stuff off my mind...seems like thoughts and feelings get stuck and  can't let go! 
Thank you for listening.  I am sure this too shall pass like gas! LOL
Farmgirl58

REFLECTION FOR THE DAY

I can banish fear by realizing the truth.  Am I afraid to be alone?  This fear can be banished by the realization that I am never alone, that God is always with me wherever I am and whatever I do.  Am I afraid that I won't have enough money to meet my needs?  This fear can be banished by the realization that God is my inexhaustible, unfailing resource, now and always.  Today I have the power to change fear into faith.  CAN I SAY WITH CONFIDENCE, "I WILL TRUST, AND WILL NOT BE AFRAID.. " ?

 

TODAY I PRAY

That I may fear no evil, for God is with me.  That I may learn to turn to my Higher Power when I am afraid.  I pray diligently that my faith in God and trust in what He has in store for me is strong enough to banish the fears that undermine my courage.

 

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER

Turn fear into faith.

 

 

 Hey Chad. IM sorry yuor having auch a rough time . Im not married but have delt with atlot of relationship issues. I had a teacher suggest the book  Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. His work is amazing. I find that the book gives you ways to please your partner by finding out what they complain about the most and using it to your advantage. From readin your post i believe you may be  an acts of service type of person. Check it out. I dont know if this is going to help with the sex issue but maybe itll help in some way!

When I avail myself of the support group at my hospital, I benefit.  Most of the people I know who attend it benefit.

I have never started one, but understand your desire to do so.  You would certainly benefit.

Good luck.

Trish