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Topic: RE: Manner of speech question
You mean interrupting people?? Cutting them off verbally? I do it too...For me, it's because A) I'll forget to tell them what I'm interrupting them with or B) I'm afraid ppl will blab on incessantly and I'll never get my chance. It is thought to be rude by most if not all ppl....and it's a hard habit to break...(aren't they all??) Try it though...as most ppl will appreciate you more!
Marie
Marie
Topic: RE: Slippery slope!
Kristi,
Check your e-mail here on obesity, I just sent you one, we have something in common, Scot****son did my surgery also....
Hugs.
Check your e-mail here on obesity, I just sent you one, we have something in common, Scot****son did my surgery also....
Hugs.
Topic: RE: Slippery slope!
Kristi,
Boy I know how you feel especially about how your family feels. When I got hooked on Tussinex my dad was like how can you get hooked on cough syrup, (JERK).
Anyway, yes, please go to any AA mtg near you. I go to AA mtgs. here around me they are just as good for narcotics as alcohol.
I'm praying for you girl, please learn from me before you get into trouble and have to be on probation, jail or loose you baby...
Look at that precious daughter and know that God blessed you with her to help you with your addiction.... I'm praying for you and stick with this board. I like you was so glad I found it. I wish I would have had it before I got into trouble and on Probation. Gastric Bypass does change us, but some of us have a chemical imbalance in our brain, we don't ask to become addicted and we don't have any intention for it to happen to us, it just does because of our body chemistry. It is herditary sp?
God Bless you, I'm praying for you.... BTW what did you name your wonderful daughter?
Topic: RE: Healthy cross addititions
Pat, that is a GREAT idea... I'm going to look into that, because I can't keep shoping everytime I have something happen that triggers that attack...
Gardening or school, what ever is wonderful ideas... TThanks for that....
Gardening or school, what ever is wonderful ideas... TThanks for that....
Topic: RE: Just found this forum
I understand all that you are saying about the various addictions you discussed. I can relate to each one of them. My best suggestion is to get into psychotherapy with a good, licensed psychologist or social worker. Also, visit Debtors Anonymous for help with the shopping addiction.
God bless.
Trish
God bless.
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
Topic: RE: Slippery slope!
I urge you to get to an AA meeting, get a sponsor, and make tons of phone calls. Read the AA Big Book, which is available online, and pray. Work the steps and you will see that recovery and sobriety are possible.
Hugs,
Trish
Hugs,
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
Topic: RE: How do you know when drinking is a problem?
I was an alcoholic in recovery when I had my surgery. I had been in eating disorder treatment twice, trying to get a handle on the food. A little over a year after my surgery, I relapsed on the alcohol, and it is taking over a year to get sober and stay sober.
My suggestion is to see how long you can go without your Jager, and see how you feel, without returning to the food.
If you find you still struggle with the food and alcohol, trading back and forth with them, then I suggest you attend an AA meeting and see if you can relate to any of the emotions that are expressed by people in the meeting.
I have been in AA for over 19 years, and wish I had that length of sobriety.
God bless,
Trish
My suggestion is to see how long you can go without your Jager, and see how you feel, without returning to the food.
If you find you still struggle with the food and alcohol, trading back and forth with them, then I suggest you attend an AA meeting and see if you can relate to any of the emotions that are expressed by people in the meeting.
I have been in AA for over 19 years, and wish I had that length of sobriety.
God bless,
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
Topic: RE: Slippery slope!
In addition to AA - call your local MHMR - they probably offer free counseling and treatment.
Topic: RE: Healthy cross addititions
I have gone back to school - I am really, really anal about doing my school work (Have a 4.0 GPA so it is working) Figured it is a healthy cross-addiction that will also have additional pay-offs besides helping me not drink.
Topic: Just found this forum
I am in the process of deciding which type of surgery I want. I have not picked out a surgeon yet. This is something I have wanted to do for a long time now. I want to get the process started now.
I suffer from depression/anxiety/mood issues. I am on med's to control that and so far everything seems to be ok.
I worry about the cross addictions. I have 3 addictions that I am battling right now. I am a compulsive shopper. I have run up around $100,000 in credit card debt over the past 14 years. To me it is a HUGE high to spend money. After I spend I feel guilt and that drives me to stuff my face with food. I use food as a source of comfort. I have gained over a 100 lbs within the last ten or so years. The shopping/eating feed off each other. I find if I concentrate on trying to control one then I fall back to the other.
My latest cross addiction is online social websites. I started this about 4 years ago. My husband and I have grown apart. My self esteem is so low that I resorted to online affairs and cybersex. I never used my real pictures. I found pictures of this "sexy" woman on webshots. I loved all the attention from men. I know it sounds totally warped, but I fell into this horrible fantasy life. I got the attention I craved. I felt wanted. I started having cyber affairs. I have no clue how many I have had. I was so caught up in this life that I shut everyone out. My shopping and eating got worse too. My last online affair ended in December and it was painful. He was the first man who told me he "loved me". I fell in love with him. We had a very emotional relationship. We made up dreams about what it would be like to be together. He is married too. We talked all day, chatted, text, etc. We did the cybersex thing or ******** He pushed away his wife for me. This whole time he didn't know that the pics I was using were not of me. He actually flew here to meet me. I had to make up some huge lie as to why I couldn't meet him. It was a mess!!! Our relationship drained me emotionally. It really messed with my mind. Here is this guy (who I thought I loved) telling me he loves me and wants me yet he still loves his wife and makes love to her. WTF? How warped is that? Anyway..........Dec 8 I got up the nerve to come clean with him. Needless to say he blew me off. I am having a hard time getting past it. I also came clean with my family regarind the internet crap.
I am in therapy now. I am feeling a bit better, but I am still struggling with it all. I just joined a 12 step group at a church. I think this will be very helpful for me. I don't know how I will react not being able to stuff my face after surgery. I am hoping I don't resort to my other addictions or find something else. That worries me. At least, I have somewhat of a support group in place while I go thru this.
I suffer from depression/anxiety/mood issues. I am on med's to control that and so far everything seems to be ok.
I worry about the cross addictions. I have 3 addictions that I am battling right now. I am a compulsive shopper. I have run up around $100,000 in credit card debt over the past 14 years. To me it is a HUGE high to spend money. After I spend I feel guilt and that drives me to stuff my face with food. I use food as a source of comfort. I have gained over a 100 lbs within the last ten or so years. The shopping/eating feed off each other. I find if I concentrate on trying to control one then I fall back to the other.
My latest cross addiction is online social websites. I started this about 4 years ago. My husband and I have grown apart. My self esteem is so low that I resorted to online affairs and cybersex. I never used my real pictures. I found pictures of this "sexy" woman on webshots. I loved all the attention from men. I know it sounds totally warped, but I fell into this horrible fantasy life. I got the attention I craved. I felt wanted. I started having cyber affairs. I have no clue how many I have had. I was so caught up in this life that I shut everyone out. My shopping and eating got worse too. My last online affair ended in December and it was painful. He was the first man who told me he "loved me". I fell in love with him. We had a very emotional relationship. We made up dreams about what it would be like to be together. He is married too. We talked all day, chatted, text, etc. We did the cybersex thing or ******** He pushed away his wife for me. This whole time he didn't know that the pics I was using were not of me. He actually flew here to meet me. I had to make up some huge lie as to why I couldn't meet him. It was a mess!!! Our relationship drained me emotionally. It really messed with my mind. Here is this guy (who I thought I loved) telling me he loves me and wants me yet he still loves his wife and makes love to her. WTF? How warped is that? Anyway..........Dec 8 I got up the nerve to come clean with him. Needless to say he blew me off. I am having a hard time getting past it. I also came clean with my family regarind the internet crap.
I am in therapy now. I am feeling a bit better, but I am still struggling with it all. I just joined a 12 step group at a church. I think this will be very helpful for me. I don't know how I will react not being able to stuff my face after surgery. I am hoping I don't resort to my other addictions or find something else. That worries me. At least, I have somewhat of a support group in place while I go thru this.
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