Good Morning OH’ers..   First of all, let me start off by saying this is not going be my typical grateful post.. I have not been posting because I have not been feeling grateful and I think it would be dishonest of me to post a grateful post when I am not feeling grateful.. I firmly believe that I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not.. So that is why I told Erica it would be okay to post the Grateful Post..   I don’t want you all to feel sorry for me and send me messages saying so but I have been going through some major issues in my life.. I know we all do and that is the great thing about being human we all have issues.. LOL..   Okay now that I have said all that it is time for my grateful post..   Happy Hump Day..   Today I am grateful..   For my REAL friends.. You know I who am talking about and if you have to wonder if I am talking about you, then I am probably not..   That I am dealing with the crap going on in my life..   That I am a better man for dealing with this the RIGHT way..   For things that made me smile during my time away..   That I remained alcohol free..   That Yvonne did a super job interviewing me and it can be seen at http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journey s/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/ and also check out her blog at www.bariatricgirl.blogspot.com

When my husband and I were first married, his father committed suicide, successfully, after a failed attempt when hubby was in high school.  His death scarred my husband terribly.  The bitterness it left made it difficult for me to access mental health services, because of a lack of trust my husband felt towards the mental health system. 

Now that I work in mental health part time, I take every single remark about suicide seriously. 

I will pray for your friend, and you. 

Hugs,
Trish

02-03 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
The Program enables us to discover two roadblocks that keep us from seeing the value and comfort of the spiritual approach:  self-justification and self-righteousness.  The first grimly assures me that I'm always right.  The second mistakenly comforts me with the delusion that I'm better than other people -- "holier than thou."  JUST FOR TODAY, WILL I PAUSE ABRUPTLY WHILE RATIONALIZING AND ASK MYSELF, "WHY AM I DOING THIS?  IS THIS SELF-JUSTIFICATION REALLY HONEST?"

TODAY I PRAY
May I overcome the need to be "always right"  and know the cleansing feeling of release that comes with admittin, openly, a mistake.  May I be wary of setting myself up as an example of self-control and fortitude, and give credit where it is due -- to a Higher Power.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To err is human, but I need to admit it.

I'm missing his Grateful Posts..  altho I didn't respond to them.. hardly. 

I do LOVE and MISS them.

Hope you are well Ramon

02-02 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Looking bak, I realize just how much of my life has been spent in dwelling upon the faults of others.  It provided much self-satisfaction, to be sure, but I see now just how subtle and actually perverse the process became.  After all was said and done, the net effect of dwelling on the so-called faults of others was self-granted permission to remain comfortably unaware of my OWN defects.  DO I STILL POINT MY FINGER AT OTHERS AND THUS SELF-DECEPTIVELY OVERLOOK MY OWN SHORTCOMINGS?

TODAY I PRAY
May I see that my preoccupation with the faults of others is really a smokescreen to keep me from taking a hard look at my own, as well as a way to bolster my own failing ego.  May I check out the "why's" of my blaming.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Blame-saying
Is game-playing.

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