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ButterBall
on 2/14/09 8:29 pm

Topic: WLS tell folks or keep it quiet.

Let me know, if you told significant people of your surgery (BEFORE OR AFTER)or kept it to youreself?
AND WHAT WAS THE RESULT ?
Endless stupid questions, or negative statements, or perhaps encouragement.
Would make the same decision today?

RHONDA FROM KY
on 2/14/09 12:47 am - ALEXANDRIA, KY

RNY on 05/05/04

Topic: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME

02-14 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Today I will take the time to list the positive aspects of my new life and the blessings that accompany the miracle of my recovery. I will be grateful for the seemingly simple ability to eat normally, to fall asleep with a feeling of contentment, to awaken with a gladness to be alive. I will be grateful for the ability to face life on life's terms -- with peace of mind, self-respect, and full possession of all my faculties. ON A DAILY BASIS, DO I COUNT MY BLESSINGS? DO I SEEK THROUGH PRAYER AND MEDITATION TO IMPROVE MY CONSCIOUS CONTACT WITH GOD AS I UNDERSTAND HIM?

TODAY I PRAY
On this day of love-giving, may I count all the good things in my life and give thanks for them. May I take no blessing for granted, including the beating of my own heart and the fresh feel of new air as I breathe.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To count -- and consider -- my blessings.

I want to publically thank a friend who is emailing me with her life situation. YOU are blessing to me .. and I thank you for sharing with me!! It helps me in my sobriety hun. You take care of yourself.. and I will keep YOU and YOUR loved one in my prayers!!

It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin

RHONDA FROM KY
on 2/13/09 4:52 am - ALEXANDRIA, KY

RNY on 05/05/04

Topic: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME

02/13 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
We sometimes hear someone say, "He is standing in his own light." A mental picture then clearly reveals that many of us tend to shadow our own happiness by mistaken thinking. Let us learn to stand aside so the light can shine on us and all we do. For only then can we see ourselves and our cir****tances with true clarity. With The Program and the Twelve Steps, we no longer need to stand in our own light and try alone to solve our problems in darkness. WHEN I AM FACED WITH A SEEMINGLY INSOLUBLE PROBLEM, WILL I ASK MYSELF IF I AM STANDING IN MY OWN LIGHT?

TODAY I PRAY
May I not get in my own way, obscure my own clarity of thought, stumble over my own feet, block my own doorway to recovery. If I find that I am standing in my own light, may I ask my Higher Power and my friends in the group to show me a new vantage point.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
If all I can see is my shadow, I'm in my own light.

http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Prayers requested for a friend's son who we may be taking to inpt rehab this evening!!

It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin

Da Shrinking Dawg
Ramon
on 2/12/09 9:15 pm - Houston, TX

RNY on 07/07/04

Topic: Grateful Post..

Good Morning OH'ers.. IT'S FRIDAY!!

Today I am grateful..

That I am me.. I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not..

For little things in life..

That one person can make a difference..

For very special people in my life..

For everyone that has been a part of my journey..

For daily reminders that I am human..

SONG OF THE WEEK.. "WEAR MY RING" BY THE BART CROW BAND

Said you wanna stand there,
With your arms around me...
But I can't feel you...
It's kinda like a dream...

Then you walk out with another..
Lord my jaw hits the floor...
It's kinda like a dream...

Said little angel with the bottle...
I don't love you anymore...
Yeah I spent some time out with the devil,
Oh but you don't hurt me anymore...

Yeah I waste my time...
And I waste my money...
On a broken dream...
'Cause you wouldn't wear my ring...
Baby give me back my ring...

One day you'll look back...
Baby when you're all alone...
Just wonderin' to yourself...
Just where in the hell did I have gone...
And I'll be down the road
Like a thousand times before...
And you'll be sittin' home...
With your jaw on the floor...

Said little angel with the bottle...
I don't love you anymore...
Yeah I spent some time out with the devil,
Oh but you don't hurt me anymore...

Yeah I waste my time...
And I waste my money...
On a broken dream...
'Cause you wouldn't wear my ring...
Baby give me back my ring...

Said little angel with the bottle...
I don't love you anymore...
Yeah I spent some time out with the devil,
Oh but you don't hurt me anymore...

Said little angel with the bottle...
I don't love you anymore...
Yeah I spent some time out with the devil,
Oh but you don't hurt me anymore...

MOVIE QUOTE OF THE WEEK..

"It's just murder, man all God's creatures do it.." NATURAL BORN KILLERS..

Ramon Lopez
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
Interview on www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com Please check it out.. http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journeys/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/
Video, about me, made by my best friend Yvonne.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gCxNTyRUo0
PEACE
464/409/200
Thanks Obesityhelp.com

marieh
on 2/12/09 7:54 pm - So. Easton, MA

Topic: RE: Early Sobriety and the Emotional Rollercoaster

When I decided to stop drinking, I pulled back from socializing for TWO YEARS. I knew if I went to weddings, parties, funerals, dinner invitations, I'd be exposed to alcohol and couldnt' risk it. My sobriety was THE most important thing to me to keep myself together. Those who didn't understand still don't get it, and I still don't care. It's hard to explain to others who aren't pummeled by the vortex an addiction can be what it takes to break the cycle. What it takes is different for all of us. I really wish I'd had the guts to go to meetings and get a sponsor. I applaud your strength, chickie. I'm glad you're getting so much out of group too! I'm sure some day soon you and your SIL can talk more about what hurt you both here.

BIG hugs,
Marie

Patricia R.
on 2/12/09 10:46 am - Perry, MI

RNY on 08/28/06

Topic: RE: Early Sobriety and the Emotional Rollercoaster

Well, it got worse last night. My sister-in-law made some negative comments about my participation in treatment and AA meetings and how it was keeping me from my friends at church and elsewhere. She sounded angry because she had never seen me drink, or drunk. I was devastated, because I thought she was my best friend. She also said that she did not understand why I could not just be really involved in church and not drink that way.

I was so upset last night, I cried and called my therapist and wanted to drink in the worst way.

Today she apologized for being grumpy, and I apologized for something I said that was insensitive, prior to her blasting me. I did tell her I was upset by her comments, and that I understood how she might think I don't need treatment, but my therapist and best friend in Florida saw and read, and heard me when I was out of control and at my worst.

I feel like I have lost my best friend now.

Tonight I had group, and it was terrific.

Hugs,
Trish

Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer 96179

Da Shrinking Dawg
Ramon
on 2/11/09 9:09 pm - Houston, TX

RNY on 07/07/04

Topic: Grateful Post..

Happy Friday Eve..

Today I am grateful..

That although support group was cancelled, without notice, I still got to spend an hour and a half talking to a man that was struggling.. I know things happen for a reason..

That I have good friends that know how to laugh..

That I don't mind telling people the same story again even if they just heard it 15 minutes earlier.. LOL..

For phone calls that make you laugh...

That my ideas at work are being accepted..

marieh
on 2/11/09 6:58 pm - So. Easton, MA

Topic: RE: Early Sobriety and the Emotional Rollercoaster

Hey chickie!! Been thinking of you the past few days!! :) I'm glad your new group is so good for you!! I'm so in awe of your hard work!! :) YOU ROCK!!

Hugs,
Marie

Patricia R.
on 2/11/09 9:26 am - Perry, MI

RNY on 08/28/06

Topic: Early Sobriety and the Emotional Rollercoaster

The past 24 hours have been the emotional rollercoaster I so did not miss during my 6 years of sobriety. Life was not a bed of roses then, but I was a whole heck of a lot more stable than now.

I started my new Intensive Outpatient Program last night. Wow, was it so good. There were women alcoholics around my age, and the therapist is wonderful.

Today, I went to bankruptcy court, and had all that stress. To add to it, I needed my 2008 tax return, which I filed last week, but did not print, because I could not afford the ink. Then, I had to call the IRS to find out if I am getting my refund, or if it was being applied to my 2007 returns taxes I owed, which I claimed in my bankruptcy. Then, I needed to pay my cable/phone/internet bill, because they shut me off today. Funny, the cable company expects me to pay my bills on time. Duh! I had to pay the bill, so I could fax my return, so I had to buy the ink to print the return, yada yada.

So, I thought I would haul hiney to an AA meeting, and check out a new clubhouse, as I had encouraged a member of my group to attend and I would meet her there. She had never been to an AA meeting before. Well, the speaker went really long, people in the back were restless and talking to each other, phones were ringing, even though we were told to silence them. Argh! The good news is, I got my 30 day chip. I also got something out of the message.

So, I just needed to vent/share/lose my sanity.

Hugs,
Trish