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Topic: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
03/11 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Since I came to The Program, I've begun to recognize my previous inability to form a true partnership with another person. It seems that my egomania created two disastrous pitfalls. Either I insisted upon dominating the people I knew, or I depended on them far too much. My friends in The Program have taught me that my dependence meant demand -- a demand for the possession and control of the people and the conditions surrounding me. DO I STILL TRY TO FIND EMOTIONAL SECURITY EITHER BY DOMINATING OR BEING DEPENDENT ON OTHERS?
TODAY I PRAY
May I turn first to God to satisfy my love-hunger, knowing that all He asks from me is my faith in Him. May I no longer cast emotional nets over those I love, either by dominating them or being excessively dependent upon them -- which is just another form of domination. May I give others the room they need to be themselves. May God show me the way to mature human relationships.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To have faith in His love.
... I'm currently being taught this lesson as I type!
most difficult to loose someone you care for because you are too clingy.. smothering another person ! Even when you know better as you're doing it.. but can't help yourself. *sigh*I must remember.. "to have faith in His love!! "
Since I came to The Program, I've begun to recognize my previous inability to form a true partnership with another person. It seems that my egomania created two disastrous pitfalls. Either I insisted upon dominating the people I knew, or I depended on them far too much. My friends in The Program have taught me that my dependence meant demand -- a demand for the possession and control of the people and the conditions surrounding me. DO I STILL TRY TO FIND EMOTIONAL SECURITY EITHER BY DOMINATING OR BEING DEPENDENT ON OTHERS?
TODAY I PRAY
May I turn first to God to satisfy my love-hunger, knowing that all He asks from me is my faith in Him. May I no longer cast emotional nets over those I love, either by dominating them or being excessively dependent upon them -- which is just another form of domination. May I give others the room they need to be themselves. May God show me the way to mature human relationships.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To have faith in His love.
... I'm currently being taught this lesson as I type!
most difficult to loose someone you care for because you are too clingy.. smothering another person ! Even when you know better as you're doing it.. but can't help yourself. *sigh*I must remember.. "to have faith in His love!! " It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
sweeney1
on 3/11/09 1:17 am
on 3/11/09 1:17 am
Topic: RE: Having a meltdown
Melt downs are hard especially when you feel you have no one to talk to. I hope you are feeling better now.
Topic: Grateful Post..
Happy Hump Day..
Today I am grateful..
For the liquid sunshine today..
For the small things in life..
For phone calls from people to check on me.. I will be okay..
For bitter sweet moments..
That tomorrow is my Friday..
For my friend Kim who blogged about me. http://kayjordansworld.blogspot.com/2009/03/another-amazing-before-and-after-ramon.html
Today I am grateful..
For the liquid sunshine today..
For the small things in life..
For phone calls from people to check on me.. I will be okay..
For bitter sweet moments..
That tomorrow is my Friday..
For my friend Kim who blogged about me. http://kayjordansworld.blogspot.com/2009/03/another-amazing-before-and-after-ramon.html
Ramon Lopez
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
Interview on www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com Please check it out.. http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journeys/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/
Video, about me, made by my best friend Yvonne.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gCxNTyRUo0
PEACE
464/409/200
Thanks Obesityhelp.com
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
Interview on www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com Please check it out.. http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journeys/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/
Video, about me, made by my best friend Yvonne.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gCxNTyRUo0
PEACE
464/409/200
Thanks Obesityhelp.com
Topic: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
03/10 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
In a letter to a friend, AA's co-founder Bill W. once wrote, "Nothing can be more demoralizing than a clinging and abject dependence upon another human being. This often amounts to the demand for a degree of protection and love that no one could possibly satisfy. So our hoped-for protectors finally flee, and once more we are left alone -- either to grow up or to disintegrate." We discover, in The Program, that the best possible source of emotional stability is our Higher Power. We find that dependence upon His perfect justice, forgiveness and love is healthy, and that it works where nothing else will. DO I DEPEND ON MY HIGHER POWER?
TODAY I PRAY
May I realize that I am a dependent person. I have depended upon chemicals to alter my moods and attitudes. I have also developed parasitic attachments for others. May I stop making unrealistic emotional demands on others, which only serve to chode off mature human relationships and to leave me bewildered and let down. Only God can provide the kind of whole-hearted love which I, as a dependent person, seem to need. May I depend first upon God.
TODAY I WILL REMEMEBER
God offers perfect love.
.. I personally needed this one today ..
In a letter to a friend, AA's co-founder Bill W. once wrote, "Nothing can be more demoralizing than a clinging and abject dependence upon another human being. This often amounts to the demand for a degree of protection and love that no one could possibly satisfy. So our hoped-for protectors finally flee, and once more we are left alone -- either to grow up or to disintegrate." We discover, in The Program, that the best possible source of emotional stability is our Higher Power. We find that dependence upon His perfect justice, forgiveness and love is healthy, and that it works where nothing else will. DO I DEPEND ON MY HIGHER POWER?
TODAY I PRAY
May I realize that I am a dependent person. I have depended upon chemicals to alter my moods and attitudes. I have also developed parasitic attachments for others. May I stop making unrealistic emotional demands on others, which only serve to chode off mature human relationships and to leave me bewildered and let down. Only God can provide the kind of whole-hearted love which I, as a dependent person, seem to need. May I depend first upon God.
TODAY I WILL REMEMEBER
God offers perfect love.
.. I personally needed this one today ..
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: Anorexia after WLS?
Hi Trish,
Thanks again for replying, yours has been the only reply. I have never been to anyone about an eating disorder. I probably should have before WLS. I have been in therapy before, but weight was never the topic. I don't think I'm full blown anorexic, but I think if I'm not careful and stop some of the behaviors I'm experiencing I could be. I'm wondering if just admitting I have the problem is enough to stop myself. I guess I will have to work on that.
Blessings,
Kim
Thanks again for replying, yours has been the only reply. I have never been to anyone about an eating disorder. I probably should have before WLS. I have been in therapy before, but weight was never the topic. I don't think I'm full blown anorexic, but I think if I'm not careful and stop some of the behaviors I'm experiencing I could be. I'm wondering if just admitting I have the problem is enough to stop myself. I guess I will have to work on that.
Blessings,
Kim
Topic: RE: Anorexia after WLS?
Hi Kim,
Prior to your WLS did you ever try eating disorder treatment? I went through two of them before my surgery. Plus, I have been in therapy for nineteen years, starting out to work on my eating disorders and learning so much more about myself and my behaviors.
I believe it is more common than not for people to develop the other extreme of eating disorders if they have WLS and don't have either group support to deal with the emotions, or psychotherapy. Binge eating disorder, and anorexia are the extremes of the same issue. When I was in treatment there were clients from all realms of eating disorders, a lot of the younger women dealt with anorexia and the older the clients got, the problems were either bulimia, or binge eating.
Having done treatment twice and also having participated in Overeaters Anonymous prior to my surgery, I had done a ton of work on myself prior to surgery. I still have a lot of work to do, but I am plugging away at it.
Trish
Prior to your WLS did you ever try eating disorder treatment? I went through two of them before my surgery. Plus, I have been in therapy for nineteen years, starting out to work on my eating disorders and learning so much more about myself and my behaviors.
I believe it is more common than not for people to develop the other extreme of eating disorders if they have WLS and don't have either group support to deal with the emotions, or psychotherapy. Binge eating disorder, and anorexia are the extremes of the same issue. When I was in treatment there were clients from all realms of eating disorders, a lot of the younger women dealt with anorexia and the older the clients got, the problems were either bulimia, or binge eating.
Having done treatment twice and also having participated in Overeaters Anonymous prior to my surgery, I had done a ton of work on myself prior to surgery. I still have a lot of work to do, but I am plugging away at it.
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
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Topic: RE: Anorexia after WLS?
Thanks Trish,
I'm wondering how many people who have had WLS deal with this? I would never have thought I would ever face something like this!
Blessings,
Kim
I'm wondering how many people who have had WLS deal with this? I would never have thought I would ever face something like this!
Blessings,
Kim
Topic: Grateful Post..
Today I am grateful..
That it is a day that ends in Y and I am above the dirt..
For the sun..
For the moon..
For the air that I breathe..
For my job..
Ramon Lopez
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
Interview on www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com Please check it out.. http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journeys/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/
Video, about me, made by my best friend Yvonne.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gCxNTyRUo0
PEACE
464/409/200
Thanks Obesityhelp.com
Co-Founder
http://www.rydobesity.com
Interview on www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com Please check it out.. http://www.weightlosssurgerychannel.com/programs/wls-journeys/wls-journeys-guest-ramon-lopez.html/
Video, about me, made by my best friend Yvonne.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gCxNTyRUo0
PEACE
464/409/200
Thanks Obesityhelp.com
Topic: RE: Nine years in recovery, want to have WLS
Congratulations on two months sobriety! I am glad you made it back. So many people don't.
I know I eat for emotional reasons. I think that will be the toughest thing to get over. But I will have the support that I have had these past few years and I will continue to see my counselor. And try to remember to turn things over to God, my Higher Power. That's tough for me,too. Trying to take control of things better left in His hands.
Good luck on your continued sobriety and thanks for your reply. Jackie
I know I eat for emotional reasons. I think that will be the toughest thing to get over. But I will have the support that I have had these past few years and I will continue to see my counselor. And try to remember to turn things over to God, my Higher Power. That's tough for me,too. Trying to take control of things better left in His hands.
Good luck on your continued sobriety and thanks for your reply. Jackie
Topic: RE: Anorexia after WLS?
I am not in the same boat, BUT, I was in eating disorder treatment PRIOR to my RNY with a girl who had WLS and became anorexic. She has been in and out of treatment for anorexia, and she cannot get a handle on it.
Talk to your doctor NOW about what is going on, and get into psychotherapy to get a handle on it sooner than later. Don't wait for it to become a problem. You are concerned enough to post here, get help from a therapist and your family doctor immediately.
Good luck,
Trish
Talk to your doctor NOW about what is going on, and get into psychotherapy to get a handle on it sooner than later. Don't wait for it to become a problem. You are concerned enough to post here, get help from a therapist and your family doctor immediately.
Good luck,
Trish
Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don't live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.
Albert Schweitzer
Albert Schweitzer
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