Did anyone else post op get so lost post surgery with what to do with themselves?

I have never been this depressed.  I have a therapist appointment soon, but that doesnt help me right now where I feel like my world is crashing.

My fiance of 4 years told me the other day (mind you I am three weeks post Op) that he doesnt want to be with me anymore.

So I have started trying to figure out where I am going what I am going to do.

I have friends that are moving to FL, but I will only know them and my closest family will be still 8 hours away.

I have been day dreaming about the times in my life I felt happy... which werent often... and the places I was at  when I felt this way...

But those places not really easy to get to.

And tonight - for the third time post op I have to go back to the hospital over night for testing because something is wrong with my pouch...

I feel like my world has crashed and burned and I dont know where to go or who to talk to.

I wish I could reverse this damn surgery so at least I could have my body healthy (pre surgery I had no problems except I was heavy) And then I could at least not have this bs to worry about.

My family is so far away from where I am, that I may get a call or two while im in the hospital but since my ex fiance doesnt want to be with me, he will just drive me there and dump me off.

Im so tired of it all... I swear I am.

One thing I have foundthat is a good thing is post surgery, I have learned to love who I was presurgery... I have also found that I love to swim and would love to be near the water....

I heard in FL they have their pools open much longer than they do in the north because it is hot...

But I dont know if I should go there or to NC to be closer to family.

Oh god I dont know I am so lost... and I wish I would have known how unstable my relationship with the person I am living with was before surgery instead of learning my fate when I feel so ill all the time.

Any advice is welcome.

I have thought about making a pros and cons list but they are both the same... same pros same cons.

I feel like my life is over.

Good Morning..

Today I am grateful..

For the Longhorns going to the College World Series..

That I actually saw the end of the game..

That Sean is speaking in Chicago this weekend.. I know he will do well..

That I have people in my life that care..

For another day..

Hi Leslie,

Congratulations on your sobriety AND your upcoming surgery date!! This is a great board for support!! You've come to the right place for sure!!!

Hugs,
Marie

Hey Katrina,

I am 100% positive everyone has to have a psych eval before surgery.   Cross addictions are very very common!!!  They just want to make sure you can handle whats coming.

I hope this helps.
Leslie

i have the same issues and, frankly, when i was getting my RNY in late 2006, i simply cose not to disclose them (mind you, i was self pay and had my surgery in mexico so i don't know if you have the same option if you insurance company already has your psych history.)

In any case, this is, after all, your body and you are an adult who is able to make informed choices. I hope you get your wls without having to jump through too many hurdles. in my case, RNY did not cure bipolar or anxiety but i am now thin, no longer have eating disorders and my self and body image has improved dramatically. it also has made me much less prone to severe depression, which was a result of poor body image..

good luck to you
Nat