Hi Rhonda......Just wanted to let you know that I really enjoyed this post.    I live by the Serenity Prayer.   Love that thing.   You have a great day !!!


Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

Hi Beemer,

I (like Lisa) wasn't "forced" into therapy, but CHOSE it for several months before surgery and have continued with it since. A friend (also an addict) said to me, "you had surgery on your stomach NOT on your brain". Those old bad habits won't magically disappear just because you had your stomach made smaller.....It took some time for me to grasp why I ate, why I do what I do, etc.  It's truly a liberating thing. I've had more than one shrink in my young life, and you might not hit on the best connection on your first few meetings, but it's important. People take much better care of their physical health and forget their mental health. Life is a pressure cookin' stress factory!  No wonder there's so much nastiness in the world today!

Marie

I have had some marital issues too because of the weight and other things too.  We've been married almost 26 years and when I lost my weight 3+ years ago (I went from size 26/28 to size 0/2) and he has NEVER said a word about how I look, feel etc.  I asked him once why he hadn't said anything and his answer was that he saw me everyday so he'd kind of gotten used to me being small.  Whatever...this is his issue, not mine.  Having said that I've also learned that trying to figure out what the future holds is way too much for me to do.  I have turned my worries over to a higher power (of my understanding) and whether this marriage survives or not is being worried about.  I have started (for the last 3 months) personal counseling and that has been a tremendous help.  When one partner makes a huge life change and the other doesn't...it's bound to upset the apple cart (so to speak).

I hope that all works out for you.

Sus

Hi Trish,
Sorry it is so long since I heard from you.  I, too, have been incredibly busy the last 3 months.  I lost my job of 17 years - first time I have ever been unemployed - and sold my grandmother's house on my own without a real estate agent.  Wrong thing.  Had to sink 12k into the house (it was 108 years old) to bring it up to code.  Between the township, county and the new buyer, plus the loss of my job I went into obesession mode.  Thank god I didn't drink over it and will celebrate 14 months on 18 Aug.  I did however, lose 40 pounds in those 3 months, enough to concern my surgeon.  I'm not complaining and labs are good, but jeez, 40 pounds.  I was so busy doing repairs, getting permits, inspections, re-inspections and filing for unemployment it was pathetic.  I guess that's what we alcoholics do - obsess.

Anyway, congrats on the new grandbaby.  I hope you have been feeling well.
Best regards, Kathy

think positive and things should be ok, i a getting depressed cause i have medcaid and i can not find anyone to do my pyc eval for the surgry and that is very depressing it self. hope all works out for you i am in florida as well
maryann