NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO JUDGE YOU FOR BEING OVERWEIGHT INCLUDING YOURSELF!
Obesity is one of those problems where the symptom is apparent (the obesity) but the underlying causes aren't understood or hidden. Most people who have never had a problem with their weight or those that only have a minor problem believe whole heartedly that calories in minus calories out equals weightloss. I wi**** were that simple. We would have no obese people. There is often something pathological or physical that cause a person to alter the intake of calories. In my case it's Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. My doctors at the Veterans Administration (VA) kept hassleing me about being "a woman of your size..." and then I went to a civilian doctor and they imediately said "your thirty, you have acne, and you are obese, you are most likely suffering from PCOS". Wow! Vindication! There is a reason I experience gnawing hunger all the time! My cells are starving because they are insulin resistant. PCOS is only one of the many causes for obesity that go beyond calories in/calories out. I swear!
How increadibly stupid for someone to even think for a moment that obesity is a simple problem! It is like saying they can solve the problems in the middle east really simply: everyone just stop fighting. Problems are more complicated than people who don't suffer from them tend to think of them.
The key is finding the underlying reasons. In my case it's PCOS and depression that may be partially caused by PCOS. Some other people may be victims of abuse, neglect, sexual trauma, or difficult pasts. All of these problems are perfectly valid reasons to being overweight! Don't be hard on yourself or blame yourself like the rest of the cruel world seems to already do before they even know you. LOVE YOURSELF and find out what you are going to do for your health. Wether that is excersizing more, eating less, or having weightloss surgery, the answer is only up to you to decide. Ultimately, you are the one in responsible for your health. If you are not sure what to do, prayer has always helped me.
How increadibly stupid for someone to even think for a moment that obesity is a simple problem! It is like saying they can solve the problems in the middle east really simply: everyone just stop fighting. Problems are more complicated than people who don't suffer from them tend to think of them.
The key is finding the underlying reasons. In my case it's PCOS and depression that may be partially caused by PCOS. Some other people may be victims of abuse, neglect, sexual trauma, or difficult pasts. All of these problems are perfectly valid reasons to being overweight! Don't be hard on yourself or blame yourself like the rest of the cruel world seems to already do before they even know you. LOVE YOURSELF and find out what you are going to do for your health. Wether that is excersizing more, eating less, or having weightloss surgery, the answer is only up to you to decide. Ultimately, you are the one in responsible for your health. If you are not sure what to do, prayer has always helped me.
I thought for a long time about whether I should ever respond to your post. I understand your point of view and I do realize that there may be many underlying causes for obesity. But, I think that everyone in this country has the right to judge you. They shouldn't say it to you, and, in most instances, you are protected from discrimination due to obesity.
The reason I am writing is that some people may read your post and feel that there is no excuse for being criticized about being obese and they may just give up on getting help.
When I first sought RNY, I weighed over 570 lbs. I knew that everyone was looking at me when I entered a restaurant. Heck, just about everyone looked at me wherever I went. Luckily, some people advised me about WLS. I had tried every other method of weight loss that I could afford--I couldn't afford going to a "fat farm" nor could I afford programs with pre-packaged meals. They would work for a little while and then I'd gain the weight back. Atypically, I was not always fat. I grew up as a skinny kid and started putting on excess weight when i got married and exercised a lot less. I have seen shrinks for years because I'm manic-depressive, and I've also seen therapists--first they used psychologists and later the ins companies started using MSWs.
I've maintained a weight loss of over 220 lbs following the RNYs ( I had a revision due to a stapleline disruption ). I've been able to get back on track using Dr Judit Beck's Beck Diet Solution Weight Loss Workbook. I don't like to use it because I have to be honest and do a lot of written exercises. I use spiral notebooks to write down my answers to give myself more room. The book is like a 6 week course which you can spend as much time on as you need. I keep returning to it when I have problems.
The reason I am writing is that some people may read your post and feel that there is no excuse for being criticized about being obese and they may just give up on getting help.
When I first sought RNY, I weighed over 570 lbs. I knew that everyone was looking at me when I entered a restaurant. Heck, just about everyone looked at me wherever I went. Luckily, some people advised me about WLS. I had tried every other method of weight loss that I could afford--I couldn't afford going to a "fat farm" nor could I afford programs with pre-packaged meals. They would work for a little while and then I'd gain the weight back. Atypically, I was not always fat. I grew up as a skinny kid and started putting on excess weight when i got married and exercised a lot less. I have seen shrinks for years because I'm manic-depressive, and I've also seen therapists--first they used psychologists and later the ins companies started using MSWs.
I've maintained a weight loss of over 220 lbs following the RNYs ( I had a revision due to a stapleline disruption ). I've been able to get back on track using Dr Judit Beck's Beck Diet Solution Weight Loss Workbook. I don't like to use it because I have to be honest and do a lot of written exercises. I use spiral notebooks to write down my answers to give myself more room. The book is like a 6 week course which you can spend as much time on as you need. I keep returning to it when I have problems.
I agree with you. I have really bad lymphedema in my legs that I can hardly walk. I have been in and out of the ER for cellulitus and psychological needs. These doctors, who don't know me, always tell me that losing weight will get rid of the lymphedema, and to exersize more. Uh......there is no cure for lymphedema, so that only proves how little they know. Plus if they knew where I was at in my life before my lymphedema got worse, they would see that I walked allot.
Dr.s always blame everything on weight. I once went to a doctor for an ear infection and she told me to lose weight and it will help!
Plus, people DON'T have the right to judge us for ANY reason, unlike what the last post said. If people want to stare, gawk, or critisize, they should have a long conversation with THEMSELVES in front of a mirror!!!!!!
Dr.s always blame everything on weight. I once went to a doctor for an ear infection and she told me to lose weight and it will help!
Plus, people DON'T have the right to judge us for ANY reason, unlike what the last post said. If people want to stare, gawk, or critisize, they should have a long conversation with THEMSELVES in front of a mirror!!!!!!
Do you see the glass as half empty or half full? I say, what difference does it make--I paid for a full glass,so either way I am getting jipped!!!
My lymphedema specialist confirmed that either I have too few lymph nodes in my body, or my lymph nodes were most likely damaged during my panni removal surgery. Even my surgeon warned me that my lymphedema could get worse after surgery, and she was right.
There most certainly are medical reasons why people gain weight and that is the case with me. Plus, I really don't want to lose too much weight. I want to be a bit pudgy. I have always been rebellious of people telling me what to do, and I am not going to do what society wants. (all thin people)
If I can't fit into a chair in a movie theater, does that mean I should lose weight? Probably, but the theater should also take into consideration to widen their seats to accommodate ALL people, or have armless chairs. Why should only the obese be the ones to make changes?
If I have to lose weight, then society should also make changes so ALL people can be comfortable.
There most certainly are medical reasons why people gain weight and that is the case with me. Plus, I really don't want to lose too much weight. I want to be a bit pudgy. I have always been rebellious of people telling me what to do, and I am not going to do what society wants. (all thin people)
If I can't fit into a chair in a movie theater, does that mean I should lose weight? Probably, but the theater should also take into consideration to widen their seats to accommodate ALL people, or have armless chairs. Why should only the obese be the ones to make changes?
If I have to lose weight, then society should also make changes so ALL people can be comfortable.
Do you see the glass as half empty or half full? I say, what difference does it make--I paid for a full glass,so either way I am getting jipped!!!
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