Support for those w/Alcoholism after surgery

Hi There.  I am only one year out, but have found myself transfering addictions.  Once I took that first drink, I was hooked.  I can get high so fast!  And the hangover wasn't as bad as it was pre-op.  Not a good thing!  This is starting to affect my family and those I love  most.  

I guess I'm just asking for some support from other's like myself.    There are a few people I've been talking to on OH , but it's always nice to know you are not alone.  Please contact me if you would like to talk....I know I would.

Peace,
Nola

Hi Nola,

I stumbled onto this thread early this morning.  I know exactly how you feel and am in the same boat.  Hubby and I drank about 2 fifths of vodka over the course of yesterday, went to bed around 9pm (more passed out than anything), and feel basically fine this morning.  We have found the more we drink, the less we eat - somedays, I have literally drank all my calories for the day.  Consequently, I have gained back 70 of the 100 lbs I lost the first year post-op.  This is a good day - I don't have the shakes and dry heaves.  Just reading these few posts has opened my eyes to how our bodies process alcohol differently.  After 20 years of social drinking and not drinking at all, I never thought I'd be in this position at this stage in my life. 

If you want to talk, just let me know. 

Cindy

P.S.  Sometimes I may go a couple of days without getting online, so please don't think I'm ignoring anyone if I don't respond right away.  Take care, everyone!

Hi Cindy.  It's amazing to me how many of us have the same story.  I wake up every day saying to myself, "I will not take a drink".  And most days....to my shame....I do.  If I'm really lucky I don't get completely wasted, but I'm feeling no pain.  My husband is very supportive.  He isn't trying to force AA or rehab on me, but he does think I need help.  I'm afraid though, that at some point he'll get frustrated and mad.

Anyway, I'm glad you contacted me and I'm always willing to talk.  I have a really good friend I met on this board.  We share everything and I have to say.....it helps me immensely. 

Nola
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I have gotten to the stage where I'm ready to go to a meeting.  The longest I've gone without getting drunk is about 4 days.  I have tried to quit so many hundreds of time that I know I need some extra support.  It's very embarrassing for me, because my DH and I are born-again Christians and we've always been taught that Christians don't need AA because we have Jesus.  The catch with the "evangelical" view is that they do not accept a statement that says we bieve in a higher power according to your understanding.  It's Jesus or nothing.  All I know is that we are alchoholic and we need help. 

Jesus wants you well.  There is room for both Jesus and AA - -  Religion vs Spirituality 

There is no reason why Jesus  can't be YOUR Higher power, but there is "Experience, Strength and Hope" to be found within the people at AA that is hard to receive in church with people who do not struggle with alcohol.  Just as there is Experience, Strength and Hope" here in this Forum for WLS.

Wishing you the best-

Dear Friends:

After I posted my origiinal message I couldn't find my way back to this forum. This morning I received an email with a response and link to it. What a surprise to discover alll your responses.
Thank you for your support and ideas. I don't kow what else to say.

Pat

Hello, Pat,

I am so glad that I came across your message. I am about 6.5yrs. post-op, and have had problems with drinking for about 4yrs. I have tried AA several times with no avail. I also suffer from many mental health issues, which doesn't seem to help the matter. I have atttempted to see counselors, however, they did not have a lot of knowledge with the drinking, eating, and mental health combination. Unfortunately, my life is worse than before I had the surgery. How are you doing? Outside of AA did you find other things to help? I would appreciate any feedback. Thanks. Jane