~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME

09/30
REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
No matter what other people do or don't do, we have to remain sober and free from other addictions for ourselves.  When our program of recovery becomes contingent on the actions or inactions of another person -- especially someone with whom we're emotionally involved -- the results are invariably disastrous.  We need to also remember that intense dislike is as much an emotional involvement as newfound romantic love.  In short, we have to cool any risky emotional involvements in the first few months of our recovery, trying to accept the fact that our feelings could change quickly and dramatically.  Our watchword must be "FIRST THINGS FIRST," concentrating on our number one problem before anything else.  AM I BUILDING A FIRM FOUNDATION WHILE STEERING CLEAR OF SLIPPERY EMOTIONAL AREAS?

TODAY I PRAY
May I always remember that healthy relationships with people are necessary for my recovery.  But -- that substituting an obsession with either a love or hate object is as dangerous to my well-being as any other addiction.

TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
A dependency is a dependency is a dependency.

I remember the first time I got sober, 19 years ago, it was out of fear of losing my husband.  I did it for him.  It did not last very long.  I had to do it for myself.  I still have to do it for myself, now that I am on my own.

Good meditation.

Thanks Rhonda,

Hugs,
Trish