To testify or not to testify?...that is the question
I am so confused and I do not know hwy. My ex is in jail at the moment for domestic violence. He beat me, poured beer on me, and threw dirt on me and left me on the front lawn (that is the story in short.) Now, he just got arrested on Sunday and the DA has asked me to testify on Friday. If I do not testify he comes out but if I do testify they will bargain with him and give him 9 months minimum. If he does not accept the trial goes to grand jury. Now, I do not want him out but 9 months seems so long and he would miss Christmas and New Years and Easter. I know that I should not care but I thought that maybe they would give him 3 months or so. I will not be living with him after or anything. We do share our 2 year old Nicholas together. I am sure custody will be another issue. I am also scared that if I do put him in jail for 9 months he will be so angry that when he comes out he will hurt me or my mother and grandmother since he knows where they live. (they live in the same house.) Has anyone had to go through this? Has anyone actually testified and felt much better after? Why do I feel like a bad person if I put him away? Is this how messed up I am. This has been going on for about 3 years with the beatings and the arrests and me not showing up in court. But this time I cannot do it anymore.
The worst part is that he left me a message on my voicemail (I have no idea how he is allowed to do this from jail) This is what he said: “Hello. I miss you and the baby and just wanted to see how you were. Also, I hope I DON’T see you on Friday in court because I would like to keep my job and go to treatment and keep my life. Have a good day. Love you guys.” He put a big emphasis on the word don’t. Can you believe he is still trying to manipulate me from jail isn’t he? I am sorry to babble like this but it really is confusing and other people just do not understand. They do make sense but I guess I just don’t. I know that I have to thik about me and my son but financially how do I do that? I make to much to get any state help whatsoever and Long Island is the worst possibl eplace to rent with two bedrooms starting at around $1250 plus utilities. It is sick and I am so sick and tired of being this sick and tired.
Sorry for venting ...I just thought someone had gone through the same. But it feels good to write it out.
The only person that is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Live while you are alive
Tricie
on 9/14/07 8:40 am, edited 9/14/07 8:50 am - philadelphia, PA