Whose responsibility is it?

I have an issue that I need to confront someone about...basically letting them know where my boundaries are set. I haven't been able to gather the courage to confront this person for several weeks now. I am trying to rely on my higher power to guide me. I feel like I need to reinforce this boundary for my sanity, but wonder if it's not God's will since I don't have the courage. Is it my higher power's responsibility to give me the strength/courage, or is it my responsibility to set my boundaries no matter how difficult? Thanks in advance for your help! gen

The Serenity Prayer is helpful in this. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change...I cannot change someone else's behavior. The courage to change the things I can...I can change my boundaries so they are healthier. The wisdom to know the difference.

We act ourselves into a healthy way of thinking instead of think ourselves into a healthy way of acting. If you truly NEED to set that boundary for your own serenity's sake, then you are obligated to yourself to do it in spite of not having the courage For me personally, bounaries are something I've always struggled with. I find now however, that it's so important to protect my peace of mind, that I'm willing to do whatever necessary - including losing friends/acquaintances or offending somebody. To quote the wise Dr. Laura, "nobody ever died from hurt feelings." "I feel I need to enforce this boundary for my sanity"... that is the part your higher power helped with - planting that seed. Now it's up to you to do the work. Good luck! much love, Michelle

We act ourselves into a healthy way of thinking instead of think ourselves into a healthy way of acting Every once in awhile, you hear a phrase or a song at a certain time and the meaning really hits home. Thanks

Boundaries are a huge thing for me and if I do not address them they eat me up. One thing I have learned for me is that if I know I need to have one and I do not stand by it it is the same as not having one or worse. I really do understand the feelings. Remember if you do not have boundaries and communicate them yu will develop a resentment and THAT is the stuff that gets really ugly. Hugs, Laurie

I understand this one totally. I really struggle with setting boundaries, because I don't want to hurt people. Yet, I am repeatedly hurt. I never stopped to think that I am one getting hurt and that shouldn't happen either. Boldly go forward with it. You will be so relieved when it is over and I have found that it is never as bad as I think it is going to be. Kim M.