Here's my question-

I know they say say we drink to numb our feelings...what if now one has no feelings (a blanket term--of course I have feelings) unless one drinks? I love that I have re-couped my passionate side. For those who have read my posts you know, but I didn't drink before wls. But as much as I hate the drinking (for all the obvious reasons AND because I don't eat-I can't, and yes that may be the big underlying issue, food makes me sick and I miss it so mcuh) I am hurrying typing this because my dial up is kicking me off every 5 minutes or so-we just moved and nothing is working right since...even the stove! (But we love it!) Lori

I used food, alcohol, and shopping to avoid feeling negative feelings most of my adult life. Because I gave up alcohol a long time ago, I gained more weight. That brought me to WLS. You have feelings, but they are probably being masked by the alcohol, and before the surgery the food. Journal what is going on inside. The longer you don't drink, the more in touch with those feelings you will be. I found therapy to be most helpful to me. In therapy I learned coping skills for dealing with the feelings, and not eating, drinking, etc. Hugs, Trish

Gosh Lori I am so glad you are feeling your feeling again and not drinking. I hope you will consider getting some help with your eating. It sounds kind of extreme. ( the not eating) I had surgery in 2004 also and while I have days I do not want or cannot eat most days are pretty "normal". All these changes you are dealing with are a lot to digest so to speak. Thinking about you and hope you are doing okay. Moving does not make it any easier! Glad to be back on the mb I missed everyone. Laurie

I am totally with you there and I understand but I have gained 23 lbs from drinking in the last 5 months which has made me more depressed . My ex and I brought up and I didn't realize that the very thing I depised about her I had become. A drunk ! I help me cope with us breaking up and her sticking me with all the bills. It was very rough. I see a therapist and She has given me several medications that i am suppose to take but don't. Today............. I am starting a no carb and no fried food diet. Not like I eat a lot of fried food but I have a weakness for chips and french fries.. I am getting depressed about my weak gain and I have to do something now. sexy inn j