Petty, petty

Sometimes I am disgusted to find myself acting like a big baby. I'm pouting this morning because Rick and the kids didn't bring me anything from Singapore, not even a token. I feel like Santa just left a lump of coal in my stocking! Not that I like "stuff" but in my family we always at least brought back little trinkets for everyone. The best part of having people come back was tearing through their luggage in search of a treat! True, I had a really good couple of weeks. True, I bought a cruise to the Carribean for myself. True I haven't worked a single day since we were married (I would have liked to, but the Japanese wouldn't give me a work visa and then I had the kids and , I dunno...I make more money investing and buying wisely than I would in the coal mines). But do I look at that? Noooo....I sit here and feel slighted because I wasn't given my due. Doesn't he know I am meant to be adored and revered??!!! Is this ridiculous or what? I had 2 bottles of his favorite champagne waiting for him here; all for him. Dang it! I got him satellite! 5 channels of ESPN! LOL! Too bad I'm too happy to hang on to this because I have a really good platform for martyrdom here. I thought once we lost all of this weight and got sober, looked hot and were active that we were supposed to be put on a pedastool. Humph! Vicki

Hey Vicki I have an extra tiara! Sometimes I feel the same way. Then the husband does something unexpectedly nice and is means more. it is okay to feel disappointed just don't stay there. Laurie

Well I for one don't think it's petty at all and I let everybody in my life know that they're not allowed to travel without bringing me trinkets! Heck, even a little magnet or coffee mug will do - I just love souveniers! I always budget money to spend on trinkets for everybody when I go places - it's just something I do. So, were the roles reversed, and let's say Mr. Sweetie pants returned from his bi-annual trip to Maui, I would be VERY hurt if he didn't have a little something for me. He usually goes to this handmade candle and soap place and picks me up a candle and some plumaria soap - little things but YES very appreciated and a small token that he was thinking of me etc. So I don't think you're wrong in feeling how you feel. That said however, people are often totally clueless, and I'm sure it was not an intentional slight. Lord Mr Sweetie Pants would never leave the house with 5 channels of ESPN - especially if they were all in high def! He hates coming to my house cuz I have basic cable, an old Sanyo 17 inch tv (no surround sound) and heck I didn't even KNOW I had espn until he explored the set one night Just keep on being nice to yourself - we can't always expect others to do the same. Hugs and love, m

Problem is, I wouldn't care so much but it IS intentional. What is his problem? I lose weight, get sober and he treats me like crap. I don't get it. This has been going on for a few years. He loves that he bagged an expatriate, sr. mgr, white woman, but now.... When does love ever enter into this? HELLO. I would like to have a good sex life at least one time in my kife. Vicki

Vicki, I feel so sad when I read these things. I understand your husband is from another culture and that he might react differently than the typical American man but it sounds like he is very angry or has he always been so direct and uninvolved and now it hurts you? None of my business I just feel sad for you because you sound hurt.Sounds like you are a very strong and independant woman even so everyone needs affection. Laurie

Sending you hugs from MN!! Men are dumb!! Randy is the same way.. Dana