Blah Blah Blah, heard it a 1000 times

I posted this in the main forum, but thought it might me more appropriate here.  Anyone else experiencing their spouse, etc. getting tired of hearing the WLS stories and attention derived from the weight loss?  Not to say it's a lack of support, but when I encounter a person that has not seen me in awhile or wants to talk about my progress, I can see her eyes glaze over and I figure she has got to be thinking, "Oh here we go again".  

I'm sure she would rather hear that then have you pushing 500 still. 

Great job on the progress

If your Mrs. has not noticed...uh, you have been through a MAJOR life altering event.  You can not help talking about it!  

Funny that you bring this up. I was thinking about this issue just this morning as I hit my 200 pound loss mark, and did not mention it to my sig other. I haven't seen the disgust, but I have taken care to try not to dwell on my successes. I find that where possible, I do my bragging here to people who understand.

I have a slightly different situation.  My wife had her RNY surgery 5 weeks before mine so its been a trip down the same road.  I think it is also a big reason as to why we have both been very succesful. 

I have to think that it would be a huge help to have someone who understood what happens to a person after the surgery. On the other hand, at only 5 weeks out I was still miserable (on good days), and I'm not certain how it would have been to have someone there who was as miserable as I was. Or maybe worse yet, someone who was going through the recovery without complications while I had some issues.

I guess we all cope with the situation we have. I think the bottom lines is that we all need to be sensitive to the feelings of those around us -- both the WLS patients and their families. I strongly believe that a family should not be forced to make changes just for the benefit of the WLS patient - this is our life change, not theirs. But, I also see that it is hurtful sometimes not to temper their actions.

 I was super morbidly obese when I had my RNY and went from over 570 to around 335.  I fluctuate between that and 350 but people are still amazed at my weight loss.  However, what I hear more than anything else is "why don't you go on a diet?"  I try and fail and try and fail.  Remember those days?  I'm not complaining.  Show your wife my post and maybe she'll be happy to hear your story.  Heck, have her look at my profile.  I don't work due to manic-depression; I retired from the Fed govt in July 1992.  I have difficulty walking and have to use a cane or walker.  I tend to blah, blah, blah about just about everything due to the mental problems.  Maybe she can appreciate you and love you for who you have become.  Or, maybe she can excuse herself and go to another room when you tell your story.  Soon, all of your friends will know your story.  You may even find some of them asking you to tell other morbidly obese people your story.  I gladly did that, but I also referred them to look at ObesityHelp.com and especially to go to this Forum if they are men.

I'm a real chicken... I'm getting surgery next Friday in Mexico, and I haven't told my wife yet. She put up such a fuss when she saw my passport application that I just don't want to deal with the lack of understanding, support and help. I get support from my son, and hope to get it from my wife when I lose some weight and become healthier. She has never had a weight problem and eats like a bird in shock. So it's going to be an interesting two weeks ahead. It is a shame when your own wife can't appreciate what is of major importance to you, but that's the way it is.