Telling dates about WLS

 Any tips on when/how to tell dates that you've had WLS?  I'm just getting back into dating, and I foresee it being awkward going out to eat/have drinks and eating very little food and drinking little/no alcohol.  Thoughts?

 I am new to the world of post op, but when people ask why I was out or why I am not eating, I just say I had abdominal surgery and leave at that. 

I can't help on the dating part but wanted to tell you great job on losing 158#'s !!!!

Thanks!  I need to update that.  I'm up to 169 lost now.

Only get involved with other WLS patients.  Has worked for Norma and I  for over two years!

I really don't think anyone is obligated to explain their eating or drinking habits.  A woman doesn't feel obligated to explain her eating habits o her date.  Stick with places that are post-op friendly, when you find someone that really sparks an interest then I would tell her but just a standard date, I probably wouldn't.

Since most women won't order more than the guy you could always look at it as an easy way to get off cheap on the food bill or just go to nicer places that typically have smaller portions.

Tell her that for every 35 lbs. lost another inch of Mr Happy is visible.  She will encourage weight loss!

Here are my thoughts on dating both pre and post op (but I haven't dated for 26 years).  Keep it simple.  Lunch at Dennys or a walk in a park...or a bike ride to a park.  Just spending low key times getting to each other.  Over time the WLS will come out of your mouth because it is such a part of your life.  Everyone is trying to put their best foot forward...The problem is sometimes it's not real life.  The rose, the fancy dinner, formal wear can be fine later on.  I even think dinner and a movie is too much...Just me.  Spending quality time is more important early on than see how fancy you can get.  Brian  PS  Don't look cheap...Just don't try to overspend to impress... 

It's a pretty private matter I think. Just as you wouldn't expect your date to disclose her medical history to you on the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd date, so should it be for you. As much as you may like a girl, she's still a stranger and doesn't really need to know. Now if you decide to pursue it further or feel comfortable enough to tell her, then just be open and honest. You were severely overweight at one point and you had WLS to help you get healthy. I don't think anyone would be against having something done to improve yourself. After all if made you into the man that attracted her. If she freaks out or gets weird about it, then it probably says a lot about her and you can figure out what to do from there. Just my 2 cents.

Agreed.. it still doesnt stop the funny looks when you ask for a to go box after eating hardly anything...   If nothing else, the fact that you eat very little and drink little/no alcohol kinda becomes the elephant in the room on that first date if you don't address/acknowledge it.