Hello again....

So I've been on and off this board for years, hoping someday I will be able to get the surgery done and finally lose the weight. So Im just venting right now. Unless I win the lottery I won't be getting the surgery (and I don't play).

My highest weight has been about 350, then i lose a bunch down to 295 and can barely survive at that weight and it comes back on. back and forth I go. I'm currently about 330. Im just sitting here wondering if I will have MOOBS (man boobs) the rest of my life.

My wife would not support me getting this surgury done (2 yrs ago) and will not support it today. She thinks its not worth the money. My healthcare wont pay for it blagh blagh blagh. round and round I go. Maybe someday when I'm dead someone will think back and say, maybe he should have gotten that surgery done?

Or maybe someday I will get it done.

Well hope you all are well. Just blowing off some steam.

I wish you the best. I will say this though , knowing how I felt b4 and now ..... I would have paid for it no matter what I had to do just to get it done. It's a new chance at life that can't be measured by a price. I was lucky that my insurance paid for it but it would be worth a 2nd mortgage or driving a beater instead of having a car payment.

I have read so many posts like your that I feel the same way. I just know after the surgery I won't yo yo anymore and will finally get down to a manageable weight.

If it were just me, I would have done this years ago when I started looking into it. But I don't have 100% support from my wife and family. They just don't want to spend the money.

Maybe one of you guys can attend my funeral and tell my wife that a few thousand dollars would have probably saved my life. Probably would have been worth it.

Boy, I can sure relate to the yo-yo syndome. That describes my life up to now.

I'm lucky enouh to get insurance approval and will be having RNY done on 8 Oct. While my BMI isn't that high, it took me the last 10 years to document co-mobilities.

Have you documented any co-mobidities such as sleep apena, diabetes, hypertension, etc.? I'm the third one in my office to qualify for the surgery and I'm convinced that our mutal success was because of the documentation of failed attempts at weight loss and co-morbidities.

Now about the MOOBS, they were ever present from my youngest recollection as a child. I went in the military weighing about 225 lbs and came out of boot camp at 160 lbs. Although I had lost inches over all other parts of my body, the MOOBS didn't seem the least bit smaller. And, it didn't matter how much I'd exercise, they never went away.

The medical term for that condition is Gynecomastia. Here's a website with more information.

http://www.gynecomastia.org/

I had mine removed about 25 years ago when I weighed 190 lbs. Unfortunately, this was not covered by insurance but I as able to work out a payment plan with the hospital. I've now balloned up to 300+ lbs but am still flat chested!! The MOOBS haven't returned.

In addition to the cosmetic benefits, there is a valid medical reason for having them removed. Men can (and do) get breast cancer.  Rod Roddy (the announcer for "The Price is Right") died from breast cancer. Other celebrities with the disease are Peter Criss (drummer for KISS) and Richard Roundtree (actor from "Shaft").

I'm very sorry your wife if not on-board with the surgery. It would be great to have her emotional and / or financial support. Personally, I'd take a second or third job flipping burgers to save the money for the surgery. I'd squeeze money out of the budget, forego vacations, and sell the car.

Do NOT give up hope. Just turn your venting into anger and do whatever you must.