Can we have our Locker Room Back???

With all the cross posting from some of you guys we have been inundated by women in here.  I for one do not like women posting in here, and hope to keep this place for Men only.

One way to let the women know that we do not want them to post here is by occasionally making a post like yours.  I've mentioned in the past that we welcome all men regardles of sexual preference.  The sole request is that the posters be men.  I know that OH is an open site and that anyone who belongs to OH can read it.  I also know that they can post here, but we respectfully ask the women not to post.  There are over 100 forums in OH but this is the only one just for men.  One of the early reasons for having the Men's Forum was because many of us faced derision on other forums when we talked about sexual functions from our viewpoint or if we mentioned pains we felt.  Yeah, I don't know what labor is like and I never will.  That's sometihing that won't come up on the Men's Forum.

I do realize how tempting it must be to read our forum and not comment because it goes at a much slower pace than the Main Forum.  There are other forums that go at about the same pace.  Another strength of this forum is that we usually stay on point.  We primarily discuss WLS, diet, and exercise.  I can see why people would want to join our group.  But, again, I ask that only Men post here.

If a woman wants to contact me, I ask that she send me a direct contact rather than posting here.  I sometimes post here and and there are other times when I contact people directly.  That's just how I feel about it.

Overall, I agree with you.   It *has* been rather irritating over the past few weeks.   

However, somewhat in their defense, I think this is more of a "system problem" than it is anything else.   Most of the posts from women I've seen lately have NOT been conscious crossing of the barrier into the locker room as much as they've been errors.   They see a friend's post on their "My OH" page and they just reply to it.  Unfortunately, the "My OH" page doesn't provide ANY indication as to which forum the friend's post was in.   So, when a guy who is a regular poster in the Men's Forum posts something here, it shows up on their friends' "My OH" page and they don't know that it was in the Men's Forum.

I've sent a suggestion to the Tech team that they should list the Forum name for each post on the "My OH" page.   I would hope that would limit/minimize the number of errant posts.  I've not gotten a response yet (email just sent today).

Since I cross post, I'd like to respond to your statement, as I see from your emoticon your perturbed.

I'll cross post for two reasons:  1) To gain additional information/insite on my questions.  2)  To share a personal accomplishment beyond the Men's forum.  For me personally, the responses to my questions I post on other boards are given on those boards only.  There is one incident I can remember that a women responded to a question I posted on the Men's forum because she was my OH friend and didn't bother to look where I posted it.  I handled that with her offline.  Point is that wasn't a cross post, that was on her just not reading where i posted it.

I do agree with you that the Men's board is a place for Men only, and I don't think there is any man on this board that doesn't support that.  If you feel there is something I can do better to support this board, please let me know.  I suppose I'm failing to see how posting similar questions on other boards is driving up women responses on the Men's board?  Do you think it could simply be the women just not paying attention to the title of the forum?

With all due respect.

I've noticed a lot of the females that post here are relative newbies that may not understand we try to keep this Men only.  I think some of it too is that the men they are responding to may not know the history and thus are not as "defensive" of our territory as they should be.  Therefore the men are okay with the women posting to them here in response to a X-post.

If you'll recall with this being a public forum and thus viewable by all when Nick and I stirred up **** with the R&R board.  Evidently they did not appreciate some of our humor!  Short of everybody heading to Big Al's where membership is restricted not much we can do. 

I will suggest though that if a man gets a reply from a female that it is HIS responsibility to PM the female and say explain to them that while they appreciate the support etc etc it is a board for Men.  Tell them also it would be appreciated if they did not post here.

ETA:  If the female poster can't take the hint then we all turn into ********!

If any of you are regulars on the Main Board you will know I sometimes post the below there.  Sort of a call out for men looking for the Men's Forum (with a link).  I'm sure some women come over...nosey, but as you can see it says "guys".  I ran this by the Men's Forum last year and no one here had a problem with it...The only problem I get is that women on the Main Board blast me for all the men in this forum asking them to leave...in not polite words.  But about once every 3 weeks I'll post it.
Hey Guys (men)...Just a reminder we have a Men's Forum here at OH.  It is a great group of guys and very supportive.  Check us out and bookmark it if you like what you see.  Brian                   http://obesityhelp.com/forums/men/ 
 

I see the main board has topics that are always at the top. Administrators put them there. I think they call them stickys.  Just put one of those at the top of the mens board with the restrictions in the title?

it's been a problem for years...you have to post to the women and tell them that their posts are not appreciated here.


Scott

The new feature that allows you to post responces to friends comments just brings you to the board where the post was.  It is very easy to see what forum you are posting on.

I have been asking women to leave us alone for years and was referred to as the sheriff for a while because of my ability to get rid of them.  The problem with women is that they can't stand being told (or asked) to do something.  If you ask them nicely to leave it often turns into a way too long thread that gets heated because they have to get the last word.  If you come out with both guns blazing it is pretty effective and they usually go away more quickly but frankly, I feel it makes us look a little stupid.  Usually, I will just ask them nicely to not post here because we try to keep it a men's only forum and say that with the friend feature they probably did not know where they posted.  I leave them with a no big deal and a thanks.  That has worked lately.  Then they go to the main board and post a rant about how they got kicked off this board and that gets fun but the thread is not here so all it well.

I don't think it has anything to do with cross posting though.  Just curious and horny women looking to score with a great group of guys.