I'm changing... but is it all for the better?
Jason,
Thanks for being so honest. I had my RNY 11/11/09, I've lost about 60 pounds. I have become a real jackass. I will be the first to admit it. To compound my situation, I had this bright idea to change jobs a month afterward, it didn't work out, so I started another one this past Friday. I would not recommend anyone changing jobs a month after surgery. I thought most of my short temper and generally being irritated at the world was related to the job. After reading these posts, I guess maybe I might be a "little" to blame ;) My wife had RNY a year and a half ago and I don't think her body has fully adjusted with the hormones yet. Anyway, I hope it hasn't. I am like you, I am worried about us. I can't pinpoint it, but has been different after my surgery. To compound the issue is the increased attention I get from others. Today, I worked for at my previous employer for the first time in a month. I had about 5 different people talk about how much better I look. I really wanted to ask "Did I really look that horrible before?". I just have hard time with comments like that. I do notice that I am really annoyed by fat people now, like when I go to wal mart. I guess it is because I know they don't have to be that way if they don't want. A year ago, never would have thought that at all.
I broke down the other night and took my Paxil again. It is the first time since my surgery. It is an anti-anxiety drug that helps me relax. I have not been sleeping very well for the last month. I don't know if that is hormone related or what, but I am not a fun person to be around if I don't have my sleep.
I do find myself wanting to play with fire sometimes. I want to see if attractive women notice me. I have no desire to leave my marriage, but it is a game I guess. I really have to kick myself in the butt when those thoughts pop in my head and give myself a reality check. It is so strange how this surgery affects your mind. I am curious to find out what men can do to flush out the hormones other than staying hydrated. I'd love keep this discussion going. It was great to run across this.
Thanks for being so honest. I had my RNY 11/11/09, I've lost about 60 pounds. I have become a real jackass. I will be the first to admit it. To compound my situation, I had this bright idea to change jobs a month afterward, it didn't work out, so I started another one this past Friday. I would not recommend anyone changing jobs a month after surgery. I thought most of my short temper and generally being irritated at the world was related to the job. After reading these posts, I guess maybe I might be a "little" to blame ;) My wife had RNY a year and a half ago and I don't think her body has fully adjusted with the hormones yet. Anyway, I hope it hasn't. I am like you, I am worried about us. I can't pinpoint it, but has been different after my surgery. To compound the issue is the increased attention I get from others. Today, I worked for at my previous employer for the first time in a month. I had about 5 different people talk about how much better I look. I really wanted to ask "Did I really look that horrible before?". I just have hard time with comments like that. I do notice that I am really annoyed by fat people now, like when I go to wal mart. I guess it is because I know they don't have to be that way if they don't want. A year ago, never would have thought that at all.
I broke down the other night and took my Paxil again. It is the first time since my surgery. It is an anti-anxiety drug that helps me relax. I have not been sleeping very well for the last month. I don't know if that is hormone related or what, but I am not a fun person to be around if I don't have my sleep.
I do find myself wanting to play with fire sometimes. I want to see if attractive women notice me. I have no desire to leave my marriage, but it is a game I guess. I really have to kick myself in the butt when those thoughts pop in my head and give myself a reality check. It is so strange how this surgery affects your mind. I am curious to find out what men can do to flush out the hormones other than staying hydrated. I'd love keep this discussion going. It was great to run across this.
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