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Dude last minutes WTFs and buyers remorse are all normal. I think that if you didn't have those feelings you probably shouldn't pass the psych evaluation.

I'm sure you already thought about this for years...you've already tried losing for years, you probably went on a million diets and restarted them after you failed....if you really doubt that you should have surgery, don't...but if not then the bottom line is **** or get off the pot...lol.

First of all welcome aboard.

By the time I decided to have RNY, I had failed dieting attempts for years. Yeah.. I lost weight, but always put it back on and even more.

The only concerns I had before surgery is that I might die and leave my family with no breadwinner.
In spite of risks like past blood clots.. I survived.

Yeah. Post op was a pain because of bloating and gas and tiredness.  But after a month you start forgetting about that.

I'm only four months post surgery.. I really don't eat much anymore.. but don't have the desire.

But I am in what you call the honeymoon period. The veterans here can tell you what it's like down the road better than I.

Brian,
I am just over a year out and I have had only sporadic moments of any type of remorse about my surgery.  98% of the time, I am grateful and happy and feel that this surgery added not only time but quality to my life.  All that being said, I've got to be honest, I think you should give this some serious thought. 

You've only been thinking about this for a few months now.  I'm sure I'm not speaking for eveyrone but feel safe in saying that most of us who have had the surgery went through years of thinking about it and then many months of process to get approved.  You haven't listed any serious comorbities, which most of us had in spades.  It also sounds like you haven't really given it your best shot yet to lose the weight without surgery.

While I am very happy with my surgery results, I would be even happier if I had been able to lose the weight and get healthy without the surgery.  At the time of my surgery, I was taking pills for diabetes, cholesterol, and high blood pressure.  In addition, I had horrible sleep apnea (200 apneic events/hour) and used a Bipap.  I no longer take any medications for anything (except Ambien, p.r.n.) and no longer have sleep apnea at all.  Surgery for me was not optional, it was literally a lifesaver.  If that's what you need, then don't hesitate or delay whatsoever.  But, it just seems to me from your post that that's not really where you are.

Good luck with your decision. 

Merlin

p.s.  Oh, and about the steak.  I just saw my Dr. last week for a one-year visit.  He advocates steak (and other high-density proteins) as often as I want, because these proteins fill you up better and last longer.

 Every single person I've spoken to had buyers remorse.  I for one did not regret it for even one second.  I started losing weight the day after surgery and have not looked back.  I am like you in that I was always an athlete, foot ball, baseball, martial arts etc.  I could not, however, control my eating and now I can.

Wow guys, awesome input, thanks for the time you took to respond so some one you dont even know...

I have known about the surgery for a long time, have only been seriously considering it since Sep,  True I dont have many Co Morbidities, but am sure that would be changing on the path that I am on.  My apnea is rated severe and is one of my driving forces, I hate the mask.  

Sounds like I dont have much to ***** about, I have tried to lose it, but its reached the point of spiraling downhill I'm afraid.

I only have about 100 pounds to drop, Doc agrees that I would start to look silly below 200, scares and amazes me that dropping 100 pounds may only take 3-4 months from what I am reading, I do worry that I will drop to much, could that be a problem???  Is there a way to meter things so that does not happen? 

I am leaving my date intact for now, will probably be picking your brains.

The other thing that has been bothering me is some of the things that I have been reading on some sites regarding long term effects of malabsorbative surgerys. Now there are 2 sides to every story, I just want to be as informed as possible.

http://junkfoodscience.blogspot.com/2008/04/other-side-of-story-part-two.html

I am trying to determine if there are long term effects that I should be looking at, are the vitimans working for you guys? Do you know people who are having deficiency issues?

I am reassuared that I am hearing so much positive from you guys, that really helps.

Thanks Again -- Brian O

Another $.02 -

If you keep up with your vitamin regimine and get your lab work done annually you'll be okay.  The key to avoiding malabsorbtion problems is to spot them early.  

Another thing we all can say we coulda, woulda, shoulda had WLS earlier in our lives.  My counter to that statement is that going through WLS is like quitting smoking.  It is not going to work for you until your head is ready to work it.  Make sense? 

My Mother had her WLS in 1981.  She gets in her vitamins and calcium and is in great shape.  She gains 10 - 15#s every couple of years and then gets scared so she starts using her tool again to get it off befor it is too much weight.  That should answer your long term question - its up to you to change your habits, the surgery gets the weight off, you have to keep it off and get your nutrients in.

Your question about losing too much weight...  You will get to a point where you feel great and then keep losing weight  at some point you may feel like you are weak and lost too much.  I did.  I added 1 more small meal a day and gained 10# back.  Then I felt good again.  I am able to add or subtract meals to stay where I feel the best, I'm guessing you will be able to also.

I agree with the poster that said try everything else first, but I am glad I had my WLS and I wish I would have done it sooner. 

Welcome to the Locker Room  we are here to help.  Good Luck.

Just an added note Brian.  I considered bypass about four years ago.  I even lost the required weight and went through the workshops. I already had apnea for about fifteen years. High blood pressure too. I weighed somewhere near 500 lbs.  Anyway I dropped out of the program because I didn't have confidence in the surgeon. I gained back all the weight I lost. I developed wounds that wouldn't heal on my legs. Irreversible scarring on the veins inside my legs.  Then came the blood clots in my leg and lung about two years ago. I spent a week in the hospital and months taking blood thinners.

So my only regret about my RNY surgery is not having it sooner.

Yeah, I'll have to take vitamins the rest of my life and I can't eat until the fridge is empty anymore. But it's not really a problem.

Again, good luck man.

Brian.  I am fairly new to this board also.  I thought I was the only one that felt the way you do.  We are about the same stage of progression in our WLS journey.  My wife had the DS two months ago. I started the process with my insurance back in sept also.  I myself am  280. I too think, why not just exercise more. Do I really need to have surgury?  I dont have apnea but I am type 2 diabetic now.  

I guess I just wanted to say thanks for posting.  Again, I thought I was the only one that felt the way I did.  Keep me posted on your progess.  I meet with my surgeon for the consultation on Feb 8.  I am excited but also very nervous.

Best of luck to you in your journey.
Evan

Same boat dude.  Getting nervous myself.  I have one more appointment then I submit for insurance approval for a DS.  Being in the medical field, I think I am over-analyzing this decision (hesitant because of the critical patients I have taken care of in ICU).  But, the alternative scares me more.  I am headed to Wal-Mart Scooterville.  I am 5'6" and 300#.  Quality of life is my goal....now I can't even play ball with my 9 year-old boy....and that kills me.  I have to do something now before he is too old to want to play ball with his dad.