Guys whats really going on

I am no longer the fat guy on a plane anymore. Yes I still needed a seat belt extender but I didn't have to whisper it to the flight attendant.  I am in a 44/46 pants lol guess you have to be a 42 to use a seat belt in a plane. The arm rest went down between me too.

As I was walking up the isle someone went to sit in his chair and he said wow the last guy who sat in this seat must have been real fat cause he sank so far down and the seat back was leaning back..  He looked at me when he said it and was looking for a laugh from me about it.. I told him I had lost 130lbs this year and that i didn't like his remark.  I left it at that cause I wanted to get back to FL..

Why is it I notice everyone who is overweight around me now? I start to think wow that was me and that was how people looked at me. 

 I am far from skinny but everyone calls me skinny. I have 70lbs to go.  I am starting to notice other people noticing me. I really don't know how to explain it but everyone reading knows what i am talking about.  Its like I am in the club now, like i belong in society.  I don't like the feeling at all..  People really treat you differently. I went out to eat and the hostess didn't ask me if I wanted a table, they took me too a booth.

I catch myself turning sideways when walking into a doorway. I had to do that a lot when I was supersized.

I have the feeling of reincarnation. I am in a new body but I don't see or feel it. I still think I am that other guy. I don't know if it can be dangerous down the road or not.  I see the old me when i walk and talk or even look in the mirror.   I talk to people about about being overweight my whole life and they look at me as if i am making fun of them. 

oh well this is my rant and felt i should put it out there and see when the cure comes or if it ever does.




 

Your a guy with a good heart.
I knew it. 
My son is like you all the scary stuff like the big gun in your pix but very compasionate underneath.


You brain will catch up to your scale soon.

Yeh, it's real wierd.  Society does treat you different.  You get better service in business situations.  Beautiful women will say "hello" and start flirting with you.  More women will make eye contact.  You really need to be grounded in this stuff or it can get to you...Throw you for a loop.  Before women would give me an extra wide birth (extra room) while I was walking bye...like I was some kind of pervert.  You're thinking "I'm the same guy inside...why are you treating me different now"!!  No, it's not fair, but that's the way it is...got to get use to it.  Soon the newness will wear off and you just go about your daily life.  Most people on these sites say the mental side of WLS is harder than the physical side.  You're seeing some of that now.  Brian

Thank u Brian

Joe.

I've described the WLS journey as being a ride that the best roller coaster designers can't come close to designing.  Physically it can be hard on us but the emotional aspect is harder.  We've had a lifetime, some longer than others, of being obese and the stares, comments and crappy treatment that comes with it.  When we go to the "other side" we begin to see how we were looked at as obese people. 

I'll que you in on something that you'll notice in Iowa.  Everybody you meet in Iowa will NEVER have known you as an obese person!  Unlike all the people you knew in Florida unless you tell them they will not know!  That is one thing that I had to get around when I went to ATL last year.  Unless I told them or showed pictures they never would have known!

Have a safe trip next week.  The Downtown Connector (I-75/I-85) in ATL can be a #%^#&#!#$ but with it being a holiday week traffic should be light.  Would offer to meet you for a cup somewhere but I'm still in TX and Norma will be here Wed for the holidays.

I was only "not obese" two times in my life. And it was long enough to know that you're right... thin people are treated better by others. Between my junior and senior year in high school, I spent the summer in a dorm at the University of Minnesota.  I was away from the refrigerator, and when I went to the cafeteria I made healthier food choices. I lost a lot of weight.  When I came back to school for my senior year, I went out to the track to run.  A little red VW bug pulls up and the head cheerleader got out and started watching me. She said. "is that you?!".. She gave me a big smile.. she was very friendly, and invited me to a party with the football team. 

Life was definitely different.  It reminds me of an old Saturday Night Live skit called "White Like Me". Eddie Murphy disguised himself as a white guy, and found that when African Americans weren't around.. White People led a "secret society"

Watch on this link:
www.hulu.com/watch/10356/saturday-night-live-white-like-me

Lol i love that skit. I saw The snl show when he did it. My thoughts were based on it. Thanks

Went through the same thing. At first it kind of sickened me but I realize that we're just superficial. Same goes for someone with a birth defect or other physical "defect". We don't always mean to be that way but it just comes out like that.

Now I don't even think about it anymore. And yeah, you'll get your club membership card in the mail after 4-6 weeks.

I know exactly what you mean. I was just discussing this at a WLS Support group here at UCF. Here at work there are a couple of women who wouldn't even say hello to me before and now they stop me in the hall to talk. It ****** me off. i'm the same guy just 109 lbs less of me. I also notice that I get service at a store quicker. My wife has noticed other women checking me out. I guess i've been married too long. I don't notice it.

Mike I did notice the store thing too. I even asked the store manager of the shop I was in why that was. I pulled up my before pic on my Iphone and he was speechless, cause he was the one who would not come near me.

I also left the 300.00 in clothes on the counter he was about to ring up. See I was in his shop before looking for a gift and they would not come to me, no hello or anything. Feels like that scene of pretty woman when they would not service her cause they thought she was poor..

So many people want to talk to me when I'm out it's insane. I hate it too. I liked being the loner guy. I am not a talker with the general public. People feel they have to talk about random BS all the time.

oh well,