Good trade off....
First of all, let me just say that there's generally no love lost between people from NJ and TX whether it comes from pro or college sports or from other things. That is, TX is a big state, but many people in NJ seem to always be defending thermselves for our state's negative imapge. I can quickly note that Tom's River and my current town, Willingboro, are nowhere near the scenes you see on the opening credits of the Sopranos. Toms river is in an area know as the "Shore" or the Atlantic Coast. Willingboro is within 10 miles of the Delaware River.
Yeah, I know this has nothing to do with your little argument. Since you are both on maintenence, I just want to point out to other men that we can work different programs the further we go post-op. There are some principles that most men will adhere to depending on the type surgery they had. I had RNY but never had classic dumping syndrome. I argued for years that I had a problem with frequent loose bowel movements but was told that wasn't dumping. Within the past year that has been determined to be a form of dumping.
I've noted in the past that I am a food addict: I'm addicted to sugar, refined white flour, and most snack foods. However, many formerly morbidly obese people are not. So, depending on how your body (and mind) reacts to certain foods may be the determining factor in deciding whether to have them. I only function properly when I avoid my addictive foods. But, there is a problem in that they are often used in making other foods. In my case, a tiny bit of rice or bread (say, in meatload) won't set me off whereas having a single cookie may screw with my addiction problems for months. As most addicts know, a slip is just part of the recovery process. But, it can be a very scary thing to deal with.
My advice to most men is to avoid foods that turn you on. If you really want some chocolate, try putting it out of your mind. Do some activity to occupy your mind and body. Try to wait a couple hours. Usually, you can get past the urge if you just delay your response time,i.e., don't eat as soon as you get the urge. If you find yourself being tempted and want some help, get Dr Judith Beck's workbood version of Beck's Diet Solution. It provides about 45+ strategies for dealing with staying on a diet and will work with any nutritious diet. It is not a diet itself. Also, if you suspect that you are a food addict, you may want to try Kay Sheppard's book, Food Addiction--the Body Knows.
Yeah, I know this has nothing to do with your little argument. Since you are both on maintenence, I just want to point out to other men that we can work different programs the further we go post-op. There are some principles that most men will adhere to depending on the type surgery they had. I had RNY but never had classic dumping syndrome. I argued for years that I had a problem with frequent loose bowel movements but was told that wasn't dumping. Within the past year that has been determined to be a form of dumping.
I've noted in the past that I am a food addict: I'm addicted to sugar, refined white flour, and most snack foods. However, many formerly morbidly obese people are not. So, depending on how your body (and mind) reacts to certain foods may be the determining factor in deciding whether to have them. I only function properly when I avoid my addictive foods. But, there is a problem in that they are often used in making other foods. In my case, a tiny bit of rice or bread (say, in meatload) won't set me off whereas having a single cookie may screw with my addiction problems for months. As most addicts know, a slip is just part of the recovery process. But, it can be a very scary thing to deal with.
My advice to most men is to avoid foods that turn you on. If you really want some chocolate, try putting it out of your mind. Do some activity to occupy your mind and body. Try to wait a couple hours. Usually, you can get past the urge if you just delay your response time,i.e., don't eat as soon as you get the urge. If you find yourself being tempted and want some help, get Dr Judith Beck's workbood version of Beck's Diet Solution. It provides about 45+ strategies for dealing with staying on a diet and will work with any nutritious diet. It is not a diet itself. Also, if you suspect that you are a food addict, you may want to try Kay Sheppard's book, Food Addiction--the Body Knows.
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