Any one else puss out at first

I got into the bariatric program through my HMO and sat through the classes, met with the Dr and the shrink months ago and both said I was a good candidate for WLS.  I walked out of the office feeling elated and excited.  Fast forward a few months, I have no idea why I didn't follow up with my Dr and just kind of put the whole thing on hold.  I do not beleive it is out of self-pity or poor me or anything like that, I just didn't follow up  I guess I for some reason got scared.  Well I have decided that I need to get off my ass as it relates to this, suck it up, call the bariatric dept and find out what I need t do to get back into the program.  That is my plan here before the sun sets today, but I just wanted to know if anyone else out there made plans for WLS, moved forward and then just stalled before doing it for some reason.

thanks for letting me ramble before I call the Dr.

I did, about a year ago and I regret it each day.   The reason... fear of not being able to eat what I wanted when I wanted.  Fear of change.  Being fat is all I know.  The same fear I felt when I tried to quit smoking.  How would I live my life without pizza and smokes?  We'll I'm 4 years smoke free and will pizza free in about two months.

For me, the fear is gone... for good.  I went to my Dr., seven months ago, did what I had to do to gain approval for the RNY, got approved, and it's scheduled for Oct. 13th.  I have two children, 2 1/2 and 7 weeks, and their all the motivation I need to start living again.

Good luck man.

Interesting.  I could'nt wait.  In fact, I used what resources I had to fast track the process through.  Once I did my research, it was 4 mos to the table.  Fear was not in my head until I went into that cold surgery room, then, I just wanted it over with.

This is major surgery and a LIFE CHANGING process.  The procedure last 2-4 hours.  The journey is what makes or breaks you.
Maybe further research on your part will reassure your concerns
Obesity is deadly and thats why I made the right decision
Good luck

It's a serious surgery.  I too pussed out at the very beginning.  Now that I did it I wished I did 10 years ago.  I feel great,look great and have no regrets.  Down 110lbs in 4.5 months.   Good luck on your journey.

thanks all, I have gone ahead and contacted the bariatric department and although I got voice mail rather than a person on my first attempt, I feel good about trying to get  things back in order

 I can relate only in that I keep putting off having my wisdom teeth pulled. With WLS I actually cheated and expediated the process that would've taken almost a year to just under 3 months from first consult to surgery date. So no, I never had any doubt that I needed to have it and my reasoning behind it was I'll either die fat as a house or I'll die under anesthesia...the second option sounded better to my ears so I went with it and low and behold over a year later I'm still doing quite well! I wish you great luck and I hope you have the success I and others have had in going through with the surgery!

I have chickened out 3 times at this point.

I just seriously began to re-research my options and I have more conviction this time.  Each of the 3 previous attempts were met by almost instant negative thoughts because I would quickly come across stories or know someone who has serious complications, including the most serious of serious.

I am also going to use this as an opportunity for one more chance to do it 'on my own.'  I am dieting now and will see if the time between my initial consult (which hasn't happened yet - my insurance is going to assign a case worker to me to help me through the process) and the actual date enable me to determine if I can nut up and accompli**** on my own.

A bit of my history -- overweight, always have been -- but I have been really successful dieting -- for a time.  I've lost 60-120 pounds at least 3 times in my life -- I just don't have that tool to keep me going once the monotony of dieting wears on me.  So, I either deal with the monotony and the lifestyle change on my own, or I get a surgery that gives me one more excellent tool to work with.  I'm 6'3"/420 and 36 years old with a couple other weight related complications (sleep apnea, hypertension, joint issues).  At my current rate I have between 0 and 20 years left I'd guess.  If I could get to a 'normal' weight (or even a low 30s BMI) I figure I'd have between 20 and 50 years left.  So, I have to weigh that against the risk of not coming out of surgery, or making it out for a couple days.

On one hand, it's not fair to my family to check-out on the operating table trying to fix something that (I think) I should be able to fix on my own.  But, then again, it's not fair to them to check-out 3 years from now because I refused to get the help that is out there.  Do I give them another 10 miserable years, or roll the dice and have the potential to give them another 50 happy years?

Sorry, I rambled.  But, I totally get the 'puss out' thing.

I jumped on this like it was a prom queen.I couldnt wait to see Dr.Jawad and ask all my questions it has been so fast the process surely mine is the exception to the norm 3 weeks ago had my 1st consult and 12 days later was approved now in the process of getting my things in order for surgery will have the RNY on Oct 5th.Good luck

I just didn't consider WLS surgery until this year. I'm 55 and about 5 years ago my wife suggested it and I told her she was nuts. Boy, I wish I had listened to her then. I had my surgery 4/20/09 and have lost 84 lbs so far. I wish I had done it sooner.

I was an extreme example, but for me it was a matter of having WLS or probably being dead in a year.  However, I've seen at least one post here of someone who chickened out on the original date of surgery.  Over on the Main Forum, I've read of several women who chickened out within a few day of the proposed surgery date more than once.