Six Months Out & Miserable

Long story short- I'm six months out and feeling wonderful! Except- now that I've lost weight I have a new found love for LIFE! I want to live it to the fullest...I've even gone back to school.  This is causing major issues for my marriage and I'm seriously considering divorce.  Would love to hear from anyone with similar issues.

First off this is the Men's room so don't expect many nice reply's.  Girls are not welcomed here, but since I can see you are setting yourself up for a major bad decision I will respond.

 - 6 months post and you are talking divorce?  You won't even have your head on straight until you are over 1 year post opp.  Horemones are pouring out of your fat cells at an alarming rate right now and there is no way you can be emotionally right.  Don't make any important decisions right now that will effect the rest of your life !!! 

Have you noticed the emotional rollercoaster ride you are on, or are you fighting with your husband because he has noticed and you haven't?

I know it's the men's room-- I want male perspectives and appreciate your input.

please spare us your lies....your in here looking for a boy friend. Honestly if you're that desperate...you'll probably only end up as someone's booty call....then again i've seen your picture...so even that would be a stretch unless the guy has a few hard drinks in him.

Looking at you picture....you remind me of the girl from in living color, the cross eye'd ugly ***** that aa guy would chew his arm off in the morning to get away from....

Scott

6 months out and you are thinking of throwing away a 17 year marriage, that makes me queasy.  You need to give yourself and others time to adjust....Jesus

I went through a Divorce about 6 years ago, and remember losing some weight and hitting the bar and feeling 21 again.   


It does not always last long. 

A few things...The other poster is right...Hormones are being released from your fat cells...You glossed over that...BUT IT IS TRUE.  It even happens to men.  Men who have never been really emotional all of a sudden have this flow of estragen out of their system...Can throw them for a loop.  If there were problems with the marriage before WLS. they'll come out in the open post WLS.  Couples will go on a cruise thinking it will help their marriage...Get away...fun fun fun.  But the problems that had been surpressed come out in the open...being in a state room for hours with your mate.
With the weightloss comes new confidence...which can come out as pride or arrogance...Not knowing you from Adam, I would say it is there...Sorry just trying to tell it like it is.  Don't shoot the messanger.  The reason I say this is that you did not leave this site after being asked to.  We men value this site and do not wish for women to come here (We don't mind them lurking).  But you not caring about the feelings of the men here indicate how you may disregard your husbands feelings.  If you don't care about a mens group trying to gain support for each other...what makes you think you will be showing respect toward your husband??  It would be like me walking into a womans only NA meeting (Narcotics Anonymous) and demanding "I have a right to be here"!!  Yeh, you can stay, but it is very rude, and the women would not open up. 
I know it looks like I am picking on you...but you need to look inward (honestly) and maybe you and your hubby get some counseling,  
The reason we try and guard this site so much is that when we go to the local support groups or lunchens it is usually 10 to one women.  WLS men have a very limited support network available...plus men don't open up very much...As I'm sure you know.  Women on average say 22,000 words per day out loud...Men say 7,000.  Good luck, Brian

 

Way to early to make life changing decisions other than food choices and exercise. 
Think like an AA member staying sober.   They say stay away from relationships for at least a year.Good luck

Go get some counseling sounds like you both could use it.