Wifes Weight

Hey Guys,

I am down to 300 pounds from 400. I'm about to catch my wife's weight in the next few weeks. She absolutely won't have surgery, but she obviously needs to loose some weight if even for her health. What can I do to help encourage her?

Greg

example
  better to not pu****  Let her see your health improve, your new food choices and eating habits .This WLS is about you not her. 
good luck 

Lead by example.  I was the one that pushed for WLS.  My wife was not totally sold on it at the time.  I told her that with or without her I was doing it anyway. She jumped on board pretty quickly.  She is so glad now that I was so determined and she's so happy with her results.  Best of luck to you.
Duane

Greg,

Dittos to what "dropping" said.   Lead by example. 

As we loose weight our zealousness to spread the "news" on how we've done and talk to other obese people can seem obnoxious to say the least. 

Be cool.  When she sees the young bony babes hanging in proximity to your Johnson she'll come around!

I agree with everyone else.  Don't be like one of those obnoxious ex-smokers.  (I am one--but decided I would never act like one!)

I agree with all of the other posts.  I'll even go further and give an example of how infuriating life can be when you try to improve your wife's health.  My wife is healthy.  She's not obese but she's not thin either.  Weight is not her problem.  My problem is trying to get her to just go see a doctor.  Ovarian cancer runs in her family so I've been begging her for the past 10 years to at least have that checked out.  She hasn't even seen a doctor for the past 15 years.  Knowing that any cancer that's caught early can probably be treated, I'd be much more comfortable if she'd just get checked out.  I've had her mother talk to her about it as well as her cousin who's a nurse.  I've also had friends of hers who are nurses talk to her about it.  She still hasn't seen a doctor.

Luckily we have a strong marriage.  We'll be celebrating our 35th anniversary in Oct.  I'm lucky that she loves me.  But, dang, some of her attitudes are just so unnerving.  I've given up discussing this subject with her.

Greg
That's great congratulations well my appetite has increased but it doesn't take much to satisfy it "lol'
Mike

As you know you really can do nothing to force someone Else into taking control of their lives. You can only offer unconditional support and understanding.. When She is ready she will make a choice that's comfortable for her. Example is sometimes the greatest encouragement you can offer another so keep doing what you're doing maybe down the line when she finds the strength in her own heart she will do something to help herself. Till then love is good medicine. Congratulations on your success..

The day my wife found out I weighed less than her was a kick in her shorts.  She never thought the day would come and when it did she didn't like it one bit.  She got right to work, she didn't get down to her college weight, but she damn well makes sure she is lighter than me. 

I'm in a similar situation.  I've always been the heavy one, much heavier than my wife.  She is not thin, and is considered obese as well, but is lighter than me.  Well since my surgery, i've dropped weight and am getting much closer to her weight.  i'm currently 275 while she is about 250.  She sees this and is now jumping back into her diet.  I know there will come a time when I pass her, and it will not sit well with her.  We'll see how she takes that, but I hope it's motivation for her to get healthy as well.  I agree with what others have said, we just have to be an example and don't push.