Feel'n down but sex talk ok

I just laid off 2 crews.  3 family guys, rest singles.  If you ever wondered how the boss feels, well pretty ****ty today.  I cried most of  the way home.  Insurance will help some, but others were contract workers.
So, I decided I start a sex thread. Wifey is gone for the weekend with GF's to the mountains- Girls night out or something.
 I 'am free as  long as I call her first
Well lets get to it. After WLS  have any of you had a SURGE in your libido, testosterone gaining, balls hanging, woodies 3-4 times a day and sleeping only in long tee shirts hoping for the morning wake-up?  Now I  know age is a factor for some.  I'am 63 and the above is me. A little lose skin, some moles that went nuclear, but not to bad anymore.  Ever since I saw the boys and my toes at the same time in the shower things have changed
Being old and fat can turn off a slim and trim wife quick. But I'am back in the game. and we need two of those bath tubs for our lake trip
Lets keep it going!!!!!!!

sorry about having to let your employees go.  I have the hardest time with that kind of stuff myself as a manager.  I have never had to experience such a big group of people at one time.  I can't imagine but know that my heart feels like it is ripped out, even when I have had to let people go who absolutely sucked at job, it still is no fun at all.

Now to the subject at hand (rosey palm).   I have definately had this experience of increased libido, but my wife has not kept up with me.  this actually is causing some strain on our marriage, nothing that we can't work through, but definately something that has been hard (in more ways than one).  I think part of it was that I could see my dingy again and had forgotten that I had one.  I wonder if this is why a lot of people get divorced after wls. 

OK,..you asked,...My drive was much better after WLS and after losing 184 lbs, I was getting unexperiejced attention and even some offers.  I slept on the sofa a few nights because i was so anrgy with my wife for not wanting to tango.  But after some time and actually thinking about was it worth it to move on and try to start a more exciting life with some other unidentified potetia partner,....the answer was no.

1. I'd have to give up home and family for better sex?

2. I hadn't been able to perform for the past 10 years due to weight and stamina, and wife did without any real action.  Now that I can perform and she isn't interested, is it fair for me to be angry? no

3.  Is lack of sex worth giving up 30 years of marriage? Does my relationship come down to sex is a show stopper?  I want to believe we love each other for more than sex.  Would it help ?
Ab-so-frickin-loutely.  Will this be the grounds for me leaving?  No way!

Sorry to say it took me longer than 24 hrs to figure this thing out.
So I thought I'd share, just in case others are pondering similar post-op distractions and temptations.  Post-op relations are a problem because of the many physical and emotional changes/metamorphasis.  This is a significnat one for sure!

Thanks for provoking me to put this out there.  Hope it helps somebody!

Very interesting topic.

I'm only roughly 2 months out, so I don't have much to contribute as of yet, but i'm kinda hoping for an increased libido, mine isn't terrible, but it's def not where it should be for a 30 yr old.  I know my weight has a lot to do with it, so hopefully things will turn around for me too.

My libido has increased big time. And the fact that sex isn't nearly as much work as it used to be is a factor as well. I'm with some of the others though, in that my wife isn't nearly as interested in it as I am. But that's been the case for 25 years, through thick and thin on the part of both of us, so it's not something new that I'm trying to deal with. The great thing about losing 200 lbs thoug is that I can reach it with both hands now. At the same time. If you know what I mean and I think you do.