Phych lady is getting on my nerves.

Ok, I know she is just trying to help but the first time I seen her we were going over family history and she asked me about my dad. He passed away about 2 years ago and I got a little emotional when explaining what had happened. So
I go this this time and see her and she tells me that she is going to recommend me to another outside phych for grief management. I asked for what and she said that 2 years is a long time to carry grief. I told her look, Yea I think about dad on holidays, birthday's and such but its not a everyday occurence and it does not affect my day to day life
She then says well two years is a long time. I told her look, it will be 20 years from now and I will prob. still miss my dad on holidays whats the big deal but she keeps pushing me to go see this other phych. I wll if it means she will deny me if I dont but it will be pointless. ARRGGGGGGGGG

My father died suddenly at age 49.....27 years ago (I was 21)...he was also like a best friend to me and I still haven't got over it and still miss him dearly. Your story pissed me off...how could this so called educated lady say such asinine things to you. Next time ask this ***** if she has ever lost a loved one who was very close to her...I'll bet she hasn't with an attitude like she has. Maybe you can ask your surgeon if he has another psyche you can see as you don't care for this one and you have the right to change.

How strange...People say "men don't open up".  Well you opened up and look what happened.  Better have repressed those feelings guy??

I think that your psychologist is in need of gray matter augmentation! My father was my dad, my best friend, and business partner. He passed away 20 years ago and I refuse to not miss and think of him from time to time. That's not morning, it's remembering! I refuse to destroy his memory.
Nick

Tell her you have the grief under control and that she needs to sign off on u or her family may need grief counseling LOL LOL.  They can take a hangnail and declare you in need of pschy meds and bi-weekly counseling at $150. pop.  Good luck and  smile and say yes'um

Ask her,  How long does it take you to forget how much you love someone?  My mom passed 8-22-06 and I am choking up reading your story..   My mom passed while in recovery after a heart transplant... so in a sense it was sudden...  Almost 3 years out and i am able to manage it but as you say Holidays are a *****

It was closing in on 15 years since my Dad passed when I finally dealt with it in therapy last summer.  I did not realize how much crap I was carrying around till I did.  Grief is a heavy ass thing to be totin' around for too long.  If somebody had suggested to me to see a grief counselor closer to his passing - I would have gone. 

You are not going to loose the memories, you can't bring the person back, it will not change the history you had with the person but will get you through the grieving process sooner. 

Going will not be "pointless".  

Good post, it may not have anything to do with WLS, or it might have a lot to do with it.  It won't hurt you to try someone else, and maybe you don't need the counciling and the new Dr will see that.  Good luck, all of our paths are different follow yours.

Thanks for the post guys, Im a little more calmed down now. Still do not think I need Grief counciling but we will see where this road takes me. Maybe this will be the last I hear of it.

Well, on the one hand, do whatever she says so that you don't put your approval at risk.

On the other hand, this lady is nuts. Yesterday was two years since my cat died. He was a really great cat. I miss him a lot. This december will be two years since my dog died. He was a really great dog. The two best animals I've ever had.

Point is, I miss the dog and the cat, which I had for about 8 years each, to this day. If you didn't still miss your dad, the guy who raised you and was there for your whole life, there would be something wrong with you as a human being.