When you lose a hundred pounds...

I just have this one question I guess. I've lost a little over a hundred pounds in under 5 months but of course I'm not finished losing. However, here is my fear/question. I'm afraid that I won't lose another ounce and that I will "fail the surgery" and just not lose anymore weight past this point. If you guys could choose between losing the rest of your weight OR staying at your current weight but not gaining anymore for the rest of your life what would you choose?

I think I would be happy with staying at my current weight but of course I want to lose a good bit more.

So we're saying: 1. loose the rest of the weight, but gain it back 2. stay at our current weight

Definately 2. At 185 lbs I'm more fit than I thought possible. I'm close to goal now, so I'd be more than content where I am.

That being said, I'm still working hard as ever.

Yeah sorry I meant to say lose the weight but gain it back*

Sorry gaining weight is not in my vocabulary. I won't even flirt with the thought. It's like I know what my weaknesses are (breads & Ice Cream) so I won't even try the fat free, sugar free ice cream or the yeast rolls. I didn't put myself nor my family through this to backslide now on any level. I think when you allow yourself to consider gaining back weight its like entering a marriage while contemplating divorce? C'ya Bob

Ditto what my buddy Bobby form Rocky Top said!!

The mental part of this is maybe THE most important part, IMP. Entertaining thoughts of gaining back weight - unless it is hard-earned muscle - is not in my psyche. I had this surgery as a last ditch effort to get healthier and happier and enjoy living my life instead of watching from the sidelines and waiting to check out.  I have to work everyday on the mental aspect of WL - not so much the eating, but the exercising. But I know it is a must. So, like Bob L., I don't want to even consider doing things counter-productive to my continued success.  I want to stay focused on being as healthy as I can.

lose the weight not gain it back. Oh wait that happened ****

If I were at a healthier weight I would be more content. Still not healthy for me. Oh well. I am at 385 or 8 depending on the day.

My choice is to get and then stay healthy. What's a healthy weight? The weight which allows me to do the things I want to do physically and the weight which makes me feel good about myself.

Everyone gets to the WALL in this WL journey where they think enough is enough. It's those that can break through the wall to get close to their healthy weight who find that life only gets sweeter the healthier we get. Just like Goldilocks there, Lance.....not too fat.....not too thin.....but just about right.

Boner

Right before I had surgery, I set a "goal" of 200 pounds for myself.  I was 310 at the time, down from 320 just a couple months before.  What I didn't realize at that point is that it's almost impossible to set an accurate goal weight for yourself unless you've actually been there in your adult life (I was 200+ in 6th grade so being non-obese was and is foreign to me).  At 220lbs I feel great, I have gained confidence, resolved my diabetes, hypertension, and GERD; and can wear clothing from the "young men's" section if I choose among other things.  I also have people telling me that I've lost enough and that I'm actually looking "too thin".  Do I still want to get to 200 even?  Yeah, maybe..I think my body however is happy where it is,  I've been at 220 for a while now despite stepping up exersise.  But, putting all of that aside if I don't lose another pound I won't feel that I've failed, I'll feel that I'm where I need to be.  Regarding gaining weight, I wish I could say that I'll never put any back on, but when I am brutally honest with myself I have to admit that it is something that I will continue to struggle with.  I didn't get fat by having solid steel willpower.