Spousal Support after wls

Hi, Guys.  I'm on target for a surgery date in mid to late August.  My wife asked me what kind of support and help I'll need after the surgery.  I told her, "I'll need a ride home from the hospital, but I'm good after that!"  She said, "You moron!"  She pronouces it, "MOE-ron", which I think is incredibly cute.  She's the love of my life and just wants to make sure she's doing what's necessary.   I had a heart bypass a couple of years ago and ai told her I wouldn't need as much help after WLS as I did then.  Was I right? What kind of assistance did you need after surgery?   Thanks for the help.

After my surgery in march my wife dropped me off at the house took the kid and went to the movies. It was nice to be alone for the first couple of weeks. Kid was in school, wife at work. I had no complications so i didn't need anyone. I had time to adjust my mood swing alone , that way i didn't upset the family. Different people need more or less nursing. But i cherished the alone time. Ken

I would tell her you need sex at least twice a day to keep the blood flowing so you don't have complications.

ORAL SEX DUH!!!!! until the stitches dissolve.....maybe a ride to the ***** bar...

Ride to the ***** bar - BwaHahahahahaha!!  Ummm, seriously though, will titties make you dump??   I know I sometimes get the foamies when I see  a nice set of 'em!!

you were right. Basically I needed a ride, that was all. I was up and about after day 1 wasn't supposed to drive for the first week, she was my ride. We went shopping and to Wally-world, mall .. just to keep walking in the air conditioning. She took off two weeks I was back to work in one. 

Driving you back home, and giving you time to rest once home are both musts.

Giving you space to discover the 'new you' is also very important, as my wife decided that she was to be my personal dietician after my RNY, and this was a bit of a drag at times - Your body will clearly tell you what you can eat and cannot.

I had open-heart valve replacement About 5 months before my WLS. After the “open heart,” I was up and going Feeling better than ever in about 4 days, Back at work in 10. My WLS Experience was far worse. Be prepared to feel like absolute crap For at least two weeks. *Post above--- Best Wishes- Dx

I had a hernia repaired at the same time I had my RNY so I was a bit sorer in the abdomen than I most post ops are I think. I let my wife fetch me **** the first week or so but after that........the best thing she can do for me is stay out of the way. And she's done a great job of that.

Ask her to go to support group with you, at least to get the flavor of it.  You might not want her eating your favorite junk food in front of you during your weakest moments.  You might appreciate her bringing things downstairs for you on her way down until you are a little less sore.  Maybe she can be an inspiration on those days you just don't want to walk, walk, walk and sip, sip, sip. You can be a tough guy and ask for nothing or you can look for those things she is willing and wanting to do that will make your journey down this road all the more successful. CB