Don't (Do?) Stand So Close to Me.

Never having had that problem I don't know how to advise you. I guess I would do a cost/benefit analysis and go from there. It has been my experience that the female species exacts a very high price for their services. 

I’m also free from such advances. Ugliness and age keep the Co-eds at bay. But, I’d probably be flattered and then warn them That my wife would kill them first, before beating me to death With pieces of their corpse. Talk about a buzz kill. Well, maybe just playing ‘Extreme Hard to Get.’ Enjoy the flirtations while you’ve got ‘em. Eventually even an Old Handsome Muscle Dude Is an Old Dude. Unless you get really rich before then… Hugh Hefner is older than original sin and still has a half-dozen bed warmers. (he does have to pay for their new cars, and fake breasts…poor man.) Don’t get anything caught in a trap that you would want to cut off to be free. Best Wishes- Dx

In years past I have been tempted but I wouldn't go there as I feel that it's one of those lines that once you cross you can't stop crossing.

I would bet there are people who think they can cheat just once and not become "a cheater" but I think it's just a mental boundry that once you cross there is no going back. What if you do it, don't get caught, and it's great. Then what? Obviously just a taste isn't enough, you probably had more than just a taste before you were married but the itch never goes away.

Without having been there, I feel like some things are just universal, so pardon me if this is a lame comparison, it's just what I imagine things would be like.

How many times when you were fat did you tell yourself you weren't going to eat Food X, let's call it ice cream. Then you say, maybe just this once, it'll make me feel better, then you eat it thinking you'll get rid of the craving. Afterwords you just feel guilty, in no time flat the feeling is no longer fresh in your mind and you crave it just as much?

Well, that's what it's like for me anyway, and I always think that's what cheating would be like. Great while you're doing it, you'll hate yourself afterwords, in two days flat the memory will feel as faded as that girl you banged in high school and you'll be craving another piece.

Once you'd probably get away with, but if you keep doing it you're bound to get caught. Depending on your moral compass even if you don't get caught you may hate yourself. How much would it suck to feel like crap every time your wife did something nice for you knowing you?

But hey, if the marriage isn't that good then just end it anyway and enjoy yourself!

This just in:

Completely different one comes to my office and a' courtin'. She knows I'm 46 and she is 18, but that was okay. She then asks me if I 'm married and I have to say yes. She is disappointed.

Dx is right about the expensive cars and boob jobs. That would be hell! It's all part of show business for Uncle Hughie, I'm sure.

Best Wishes,

Dave

Hey Dave, During my nearly 2 year separation, you can bet I've often been tempted to "cross the border" but have never followed through. For me, it's always been a matter of cost vs. benefit. Makes sense since I'm a finance kind of guy.  In othe words, does the cost (e.g. do further damage to my marriage, hook up with a psycho, contract some nasty-ass STD, etc.) exceed the benefit (30 seconds of pleasure   ). Not for this pup at this time in my life. I've known a couple of post-WLS guys who have followed through  (with ex-WLS women) and let me tell you, the results weren't pretty. Things got complicated very quickly in both cases.  On the other hand, it seems like WLS support groups are good "hunting grounds" for those so inclined.   Boner

You've mentioned before that Japanese women are "good sports" - is there any possibillety of a spousely sanctioned "three way"??? I just want to know if Japanese ***** is oriented "sideways"... or is that just a cruel myth?

There is a "decision cost" to everything we do. No one can ever have it all. What to do, what to do?? Beats the **** out of me, just be careful buddy! Doug

And no offence to you but she is using flattery to try n get a better grade out of you too. Beware that one also.

Hey Dave, I am from the old school where hearts stay true.  I understand the temptation (and there is a lot of it around).  But I believe that trust is a very important part of any marriage or relationship.  Once you step over the boundary there is no going back.  I know my conscience (sp?) would drive me crazy.  I have know a lot of people who loved each other but could not make a go of their relationship because of trust issues.  Enjoy the flirtations and the attention but be careful!