So What Do Those w/o Mothers Do Today?

This is always a blue(r) day for me ...  My mom passed over 15 years ago ..   Dad passed the year before ...

  So what to do today?   &:-/)

   I had thought about having flowers delivered to her grave, if that can be called "celebrating", but what's the use since it's way out in West Texas over 500 miles away  --   I won't see them, and for all I know the one florist in that small town may take my credit card payment and never even deliver them there ..  I'd have no way of knowing otherwise ...

   What do you do to celebrate, if your mom is gone?

Hey Paul, My Mother passed away 8 years ago, and I always have a tough time on Mother's Day.  I have 3 sisters, and I always make sure to call them today and wish them a happy Mother's Day.  The mother of my god-daughter lives in North Jersey, but I call her as well today and do the same. My mother is also buried 300 miles away, and I wi**** was possible to visit her grave.  I'd make sure the headstone was clear of any debri, and I'd take some fresh flowers to her.  But, I have been thinking of her a lot today, and have been talking to her (I do that a lot - don't tell my shrink) :)    I'm also doing a lot of writing and journalling lately, and I plan on doing a journal entry tonight that will have a strong emphasis on celebrating my memories of her. I was dreading Mother's Day this year - and have been thinking a LOT about how I wished she could be here this year to celebrate in my weight loss, and my new business ventures.  But, now that the day is here I'm doing better than I thought I would.  I've already talked to one of my sisters, and will be talking to the others later this afternoon and evening. Looking at photo albums and other sorts of reminiscing is also helpful for me too. Here's hoping you can find a way to honor your Mother today that will be meaningful to you.

Thanks, Chuck ... sounds like you have a good plan there ..!

  My mom's last sibling passed away last year @ 90, also out in west Texas, so I can't call her anymore to talk about mom.  We lost all our family pics due to an unfortunate event a few years ago ...  My brother and I are her only children ..

   Like you, I so wish mom could have seen my WLS and weight loss.  I remember arriving in Dallas in '91 to visit her for the first time in years ..  At some point later she told me how sad she was to see that I had gained so much weight, and had hoped I wouldn't fall victim to the family "legacy" on her side ..   She also passed - of diabetes and heart disease - two weeks after I took the bar exam here, so she didn't live to see me pass and become a lawyer.  I think she'd be so proud to see me now:   having had the courage to have the WLS on my own, lose all the weight, become a lawyer, and (as of 3 months ago) have my own practice!

Hey Paul, Congrats on all your successes - and i hope are finding a way to incorporate her into your successes somehow.   I was living my dream of living and working in NYC when my mother had a major stroke (in Utah).  I was able to make it home a few hours before she died, but it was definitely bitter-sweet.  Knowing that she was so VERY happy that i was following my heart and living in NYC, but yet knowing how sad she was that i was so far away. When i talk to my sisters today too - it's not necessarily to spend time crying and being sad.  I'm going to give my one sister all sorts of CRAP, cuz she's at the Jazz/Laker game right now (on th 14th row)!!!!!!!!!!!   And, one of my Mom's favorite movies was Steve Martin's "The Jerk" - yea, she was born in 1924, but she would LAUGH non-stop at that movie.....   So, i own a copy of that movie and plan on watching it later today (after the Jazz kick some Laker butt)...... I am also breaking out the Hummingbird feeder today (hoping we are DONE with our overnight freezes), because my mom loved to watch the hummingbirds. Just try and find little ways to remember her today - Focus on the happy memories you have with your Mom :-)   Like Steve Martin finding out what his "Special Purpose" is. LOL

 wow .. that brought back memories ..  hummingbirds!   My mom loved them too ..  We had a big row of feeders on the front porch of our house back in the Ozarks ..  They'd buzz those things like crazy, and actually seem to get mad when they'd run out of food ... They'd buzz the windows as if to say, "get back out here and give us more food!" .. 

Both mom and dad are long dead so on these days I stay away from churches and restaurants - two places where everyone seems to get sentimental to the point of teary eyed and maudlen. Don't get me wrong. I loved and still miss my parents but I refuse to think of myself as a 57 year old orphan. Today I drank a pot of strong coffee, ate a slice of cold pizza and watched two Samurai movies with subtitles. Guess I am a cold, hard, lonely, ungrateful beast.   The most satisfying mothers day rememberence after her death was to donate to a charity in her name.

did usual chores, worked out, ran, gonna make quesadias tonight with the g/f. first we're gonna go run the dogs in the canyon with their dog friends! always a fun day. so our dogs celebrate with mommy for the day! she brushed them and we sat out on the back patio soaking up the california rays. not a bad day so far. can't wait to eat the mexican food tonight then watch a dvd she got. that will smith one. can't think of the name. something about i am.....he's supposed to be the last guy on earth or something. anyway, our dogs are our kids so she's the mommy. we leave it to the dogs to do something special!

Carbon - have you ever tried Versailles on Venice (?) & motor?  good ****  it's I am "Legend, BTW".. pretty good. But pales in comparison to Ironman!

just saw the movie last night. what happened? did the writers strike happen when they were writing the ending? it just stops with some lame ass explosion! i could have written that piece of junk. omega man was better. what crap.

nope, haven't done the venice thing. will look for it as i'm working on a craftsman in venice the next couple weeks.

oh, did i call it or what with curly idiot? knew she would feel privaliged or something to come in here and stir her vile shat, as you put it. hope she just goes away and dies. at this point i'm more in charmings corner!! .....carbonblob