I need some advice badly

I have been single again for about 6 months, after 15 years with one woman. Let me tell you, my first few dates were like walking into the middle of a Salvador Dali painting. Surreal to say the least. While Baja is kind of our Locker Room "ID", as in Ego, Superego and Id, don't discount him. ID is one third of every man. Baja is just more in touch with his. I would suggest many casual dates. Don't get tied down, no matter what, for a period of time. The internet is a great place to meet women. www.plentyoffish.com is a great one, and completely free. Also, join things like a singles hiking club, or take a continuing ed class at a local college which will be loaded with women. If you have kids, or nephews, cousin etc in school near by get involved in their school activities. Schools are loaded with single women. Be yourself, but don't be too nice. Be confident, make decision. Don't ask them were they would like to do for dinner, what movie they want to see etc... Lead. Suggest the place for dinner, the movie, the activity. Stand your ground on you beliefs, do not mold to what you think they want you to be or hear. One thing I learned pretty early in the process is that we are a commodity in demand. A truly single, heterosexual,middle aged man, with a decent job, in decent health, with a little stability and success in life, can date every night of the week if he chooses. Enjoy your freedom and the adventure. Just keep your head. JP

Just keep your head. Hmmmmmmm .  .  .  as in steer clear of Lorena Bobbitt?  

"While Baja is kind of our Locker Room "ID", as in Ego, Superego and Id, don't discount him. ID is one third of every man. Baja is just more in touch with his" Why thank you for the thoughtful and kind definition, usually I am just referred to as an "Asshole" 

Hey, why did you have the wink icon after you referred to yourself as an "asshole?" Boner

I usually use the little "thumbs up" guy    but I didn't want that extended thumb any where near my "asshole".

I knew there was some logical explanation for it Baja!

I knew I came to the right place for advice!! I will try the internet and see how that goes, the hiking thing sounds good too. Right now I feel wierd about it but I have caught myself looking at a lot of women thinking...I wonder what shes like in bed? Hmmm, I guess that means I just might be ready to see what my new found measurements (1 inch for every 50lbs lost?) will attract! Thanks guys!

(To the tune of RawHide by Frankie Lane)  Trolling -Trolling -Trolling  . . . Ol' Ben's a going trolling  . . . for hide!

Ben, Just put yourself out there. Smile, talk and flirt. You'll slowly regain your confidence. However, until you get that confidence, fake the confidence. You are going to get shot down. It's a risk single guys have to take if they want to be successful at the dating game. I take the shotgun approach. I'll flirt and ask many women out. Eventually, one of my bb's will hit the mark. It's worked for me so far. Enjoy the ride Ben. Good luck! Ben

My wife left me over three years ago for another man.  After a period of mourning I went to Colorado to visit my brother.  He and my nephew introduced me to match.com.  At first I laughed, but I tried it.  I met an amazing woman.  We are now married and she is the best thing that ever happened to me.  I was scared ****less doing it and going out.  I had never dated anyone I did not know growing up.  She was my first date in over twenty five years.  An d the first ever with someone I had not grown up with.  Take it easy and slow and you will find there is someone who thinks you are great just as you are, fat or skinny.  She will love you because you are worthy of love.