Don't ya love those reality checks.....

Yep, it finally happened.. I saw someone who hadn't seen me for a while... and they said "Weren't you going to get Bypass surgery? Did you ever get it?    ( I should have gotten the warning there.. but nope.. not me.. LOL...) Well, me being proud of my success thus far.....  I proudly gave my current weight loss stats, and how well I was doing...  I then get this confused look.. and .. "Oh.. well.. keep it up, before you know it, it will be showing... .." As I'm sitting there crushed, and stuttering...  my wife makes a comment to them about how it is more noticible when I don't have my big coat on, or something.  We made some more small talk and awkwardly ended the conversation. After thinking about it...  I realized that I"ve been out of the 'public eye', as it were, for quite some time due to my injury, time stuck at home, etc.  And I actually gained about 100 pounds since I was working full time.  So... to most people who knew me 'back then', I actually look about the same as I did back then...  oops.   The only people *****ally are seeing the difference, are the people who've been around me recently.. ie the past year or two. So, now, besides my goals, I have a new one.. to shock people who knew me  'back then". Reality Checks suck now and then. .. LOL. Dale

Patience, my good man! There won't be any reality checks here in a month or so I can assure you. Remember for us big guys, we can put on 20 or 30 pounds without a noticeable difference so the opposite holds true as well.  boner

Now that is a true fact Boner. I gained 17 lbs. and no one could tell but me. Then I gained another 11 lbs. and a friend asked me if I hadn't gained a "couple of pounds".   Hmmm . . . 28 lbs. = a "couple of pounds on my bigg azz.  Then I lost 15 pounds and nobody could even tell!  Sheeeshhhh!!  That stinks

I had lost a great deal of weight before people started to take note . As bonner said; oooo it will come yes it will . In the mean time keep doing what you 'r doing .   Nick     

I'm sorry but I think I would have flipped them off and walked away. OK I understand you trying to put it into perspective, but after you gave your stats it was totally F*^% Rude for them to say well maybe soon we can notice! What kinda CRAP is that!!! Thats like going up to a woman you hadn't seen in a while who's put on some weight and say "Whens the baby do". Just Wrong! Your a better man then me! Sorry for the rant but Damn I can feel your pain brother. Bob

It happens.  I had a five year school reunion seven months after surgery, and though I was 300+ through most of school, I graduated at about 235.  (Then in the five years after, got to 375.)  Anyway, several months after surgery I'd lost over 100 pounds and I took a lot of proud looks in the mirror, but then reality set in when I realized I still needed to lose 40 pounds to keep from looking fatter than when those people last saw me.  I tell you what, that was a real motivator, so I pushed hard to get under 230 before the first day of the reunion (and at 228, made it by a hair).  Even still, I set off debates right in front of me.  Some who didn't really see me much my last year said I'd lost tons of weight, while others (who knew me from my last year) looked confused because I looked the same to them.  I just stared blankly and pretended I didn't know what any of them were talking about. Anyway, these moments shouldn't discourage you, they should motivate you.  You know you've made progress, and you know you have a lot more work to do before you've gotten to the health level you want.  My goal these days isn't to shock anyone.  In just a year, I've gone from having friends say that they couldn't imagine me normal sized (in other words, we prefer you big), to saying they have a hard time remembering me fat, while most just never bring the issue up at all anymore.  I cherish most these quieter victories. 

Dale, in about a year you'll be able to tell people like  that to kiss your skinny a$$. Keep your eye on the prize brother, your're doing great. Doug

Right you are Doug! Just the other day, someone pissed my wife off and she told them to "Kiss her fat ass!" (as she pushed me towards them!!) BwaHahahaha!!!

Now that is some funny **** right there BamaBob.    Taz

You can always reply that "ugly is to the bone", and a least you can lose the weight