MRSA, Elderly Codependent & Request for Prayers

Better qualify that one, Baja before you become even more of an OH chick magnet. 

Sounds like pretty high level work to me.

"Holding your own" with them? I'm sure it's a mutual thing...lol

Addendum:

If there's any advice any of you could think of that I could pass on to the slaving elderly mother, that would also be appreciated.

Best Wishes,

Dave

Dave, the best advice that I can give is that the mother stop enabling this king of behavior and let her daughter hit bottom.  Throwing money at her, and putting her own future at risk, is helping no one. My mom was in a similar situation in that she was enabling a booze and gambling addicted second husband.  He was a nice enough guy, and never physically or mentally abusive (lucky for him) but he had a nasty habit of dipping into her retirement, taking out credit cards in her name, etc...   Basically, he chose his vices over  having  a family. On my advice, she cut him loose..... he now resides in a trailer in Parumph, Nevada - coincidentally within walking distance of a casino  I always say that if a person wants to take themselves down they have every right.... but they have no right to take others along with them.

Hey Dave, I will be praying that God works in this situation.  God does work in mysterious ways and although we can't see it now, He is working in this situation also.  I will pray for long term healing and comfort from these addictions.  Baja is right.......most often a person has to hit rock bottom before they reach for help.  I pray she reaches for help and finds her way back.  I will also pray for her elderly mother, you and the family..  May God bless you and comfort you all .

Thanks so much Cap!

It's true. Now I wonder which will happen first the "rock bottom" or her becoming an invalid? Being left with nothing and becoming an invalid could now very well coincide.

Let's hope she recovers physically. She has  this stuff in her bloodstream. I'm not sure if they have gone to the next generation antibiotics (Vancomycin?) or not. Then there are a couple of new ones. They even have "Ozone therapy", but not sure how it works.

Hi Dave, Your relative is facing some hard times, sort of like paying a long-delayed bill with heavy interest. Baja is right, I think, about everybody trying to let her hit bottom. It's not an easy thing to do, but when the stakes are this high, the remedy is too, very often. Regardless of the addiction, mom might benefit from AlAnon or something like it. There she'll get a lot of hard-earned wisdom and support. It's hard for any of us to let our loved ones fall when they need to, but it must be excruciating for mothers. You and yours have my prayers and best thoughts.

Thanks, Doug!

Yes, she was about to lose everything material and I was hoping she wouldn't get sick on top of it, so that she might find a way out on her own. She couldn't even find the motivation to file for disability - her last hope for an income.

This really clouds the issue. I hope she can manage a full recovery, but short of a miracle, I don't see how.

Dave, What is her first name?

Thanks, Rich. Again contact me anytime.

As for the relative, it's going to take a true miracle.

Celebration time, boys!

(However, do please continue to pray for both!)

This relative has now been awarded free hospital care for how ever many months she has to stay and maybe even after she gets out. She really, truly is unprepared in any way to face life, but I never knew that anyone would care for her.

I don't really believe in any organized religion, but do believe in the power of prayer. However, I must praise the Catholic Church for truly taking care of its fellow man. Here she is, not even a member and this Catholic Hospital has awarded her all of this care.

No doubt another Men's Board Miracle!

The Mom may be a tougher case, so please pray even harder if you don't mind. She's 75 and determined to take care of this daughter and pick up the pieces of her life, EVEN with two DJD shoulders with blow rotator cuffs and arthtritis in knees and back. EVEN with severe depression of her own.

Thanks so much again,

Dave