Women versus Men and Depression
I am a psychotherapist and have taught it around the world. I know a little somethiing about it. There are neurochemical differences between men and women (specific mechanisms are not fully understood) and ther are differences in the release rate of testosterone and estrogen during ketosis. Those factors account for some of the difference. A major factor in the perception of "depression" is socialization. A lot of the men here on the board (including myself) dislike the chatter of the main board, but that is precisely how women keep depressive episodes at bay -- relationally. As several of you have said in this thread, men have a propensity to keep their emotional reactions to themselves or to titrate them cognitively, deny them, etc. There are two additional factors men should consider. First, men have a tendency towards alcoholism and violence when they experience prolongued depression. In fact, anger is a measure of depression in men. Second, men tend to die at a much earlier age than women from diseases that have a psychosomatic component, like cardiac failure, hypertension or obesity. I think that is sad. Many a brother has passed on locked in a prison of his own making. A little more warmth (see the Coffee Talk for today), a little more opening of our hearts, a little more sharing our troubles ... all might add years to our lives. It is ironic that we would choose to have our GI plumbing altered so dramatically but stick to our guns when asked to consider altering our psyche to facilitate our health. That said, I think the main board sucks! Drama does not equal sharing our plight in life and getting support. We do an excellent job of it here on this board. Guess I just wanted to say my piece here to keep the space as open as possible. I can't imagine anyone morbidly obese who hasn't sufferred intermittent bouts of depression from social isolation, poor self-image, physical ailments, condemnation by others or self-defeatism.
Don't rule out counseling or therapy simply because it's not macho or because you are convinced it can't work for you. There may be a time in your life when it would be helpful to have it in your back ppocket as an option.
CB
The free man owns himself. He can damage himself with either eating or drinking....... If he does he is certainly a damn fool, and he might possibly be a damned soul; but if he may not, he is not a free man any more than a dog.