Dating and eating

Hey guys, longtime reader, sometimes poster. Anyway, things are going better for me on the dating front after having lost 130 pounds.  the one issue I just can't seem to get around is what I will do when I go out to eat on a date.  I know I should own up to the surgery, but I kind of don't want to, and something is going to look wrong when I eat 1/4 of what I order.   Any thoughts?  I really am not interested in coming out with "you know, 6 months ago I was HUGE!"  Maybe alternative dates?  Just looking for some ideas.  Thanks fellas.

geez I have not dated in decades...but maybe coffee for the first few times....starbucks...and get her a cookie.... that way it's not so obvious the first few times.... russ

How about just for the first few dates you not go out to eat . untill you feel good about goming out with WILL YOU KNOW ( WLS ) You know like the third or forth date , and you think that you might have some feelings for Her/him . Then tell them the truth . That way you are more likley to feel ok about telling them you had WLS .If they too have same feelings for you ,they will understand .  Idont know it has been a long time sinces I have gone out on a date for me too . That is with anybody other then my wife .   Nick

Nick, I've been lurking for almost 3 years now.  I had RNY 5-17-05.  It has been a blessing to me and my family.  I have never posted before today but felt in a small way I might offer you a suggestion to your problem.  I won't be dating but I do go out with family and friends to eat often and it was always a problem because I couldn't begin to eat what I would order.  I finally stated ordering from the appetizer menu to be brought to me when everyone elses main course was served.  There is usually always good things to eat on the appetizer menu and it is plenty of food for me, sometimes too much even.  Hope this helps. john

OK... I am recently single and will be jumping in feet first to the dating world VERY soon (all hope recently lost). BUT... The ex GF and I went out to eat alot and I discovered alot that I can do. Salads - (gives the example of just eating light and healthy) Sushi - (same, and trendy) Soups - Many restaurants have great soups. Bowl of chili Something else I do. I go to many (trendy) restaurants by myself. I have been trying new things, with thoughts of... Hey i can take someone here on a date and eat what I am eating now. I am in the same boat as you, I am not going to share my WLS journey with anyone on a first or second date. On the third, absolutely. It will show you (by their reaction) if they are shallow or not. Try going out to eat at a couple places with friends or such. This way you can "scout" out a location. The last thing you want to do is get the foamies on a first date...lol that would suck.