How hard????

So how hard is the sugury really?  I read all these messages by women who are *****ing and moaning, how hard is the surgury? Also when i did weigh****chers and went to the meetings all I ever heard was that it was easier for men to lose weight.  Now I know they have the time of the month and bloatyness but really is this just easier for men?

The Surgery was a lot easier than I thought it would be.  Not as much pain as I thought, and my recovery went smoothly.   I worried about the anestesia, the cathedre,  the scars, the pain.... and none of it was as bad as I invisioned it to be.  So, DON'T WORRY.

Ditto on that! I hurt pretty bad when i woke up, but it was gas discomfort pain, and easily managed. By the afternoon I got up and walked and it made a HUGE difference. It gets that gas moving out and by the next morning I was feeling fine. I went home the next day, took the pain meds for a couple days, more to keep from hurting than because I needed it, and stopped taking even it after about 4 days. The story is different for everyone, but things went very well for me and the pain and discomfort was minimal. I will be 6 weeks out on Friday, and I am down about 75lbs already. (30 of that was pre-op) I feel good, and wish like many that I had done this 10 years ago.

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Even the toughest criminals become remarkably docile 
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The actual surgery is only a very, very small part of the total picture.   Learning to cope with and ulimately accept your new stomach is much harder.  

Please explain.  What do you mean?  I thought the dealing with tiny portions was a good thing because if you eat too much you vomit and you don't have the hungar you once used to have.

It is a GREAT thing but it's a change and sometimes change can be difficult.   I'll just say that your body is going to adjust a lot faster than your mind will.    :)

About 2 weeks after surgery you'll be pretty much over the pain from the surgery, and may even have your normal appetite back. Your head will still want to eat like you did before, but your new stomach won't let you, so it's a learning process. You basically have to learn to eat again from scratch.

I have read a lot of the same things.  My take is it depends on the attitude you have.  If you have a strong mind and will power to do the things you are supposed to then most of the time all will be well.  If you go into it worried or don't have the will power to do what you are supposed to you increase your chances of things not turning out right.

I've had two major surgeries in 5 years. The first was for prostate cancer the second a lap RNY. Some guys sail right through prostate surgery however that surgery kicked my ass. Then I dealt with complications due to strictures. I was very apprehensive about the WLS but I was also desperate to loose weight. So it was "shoot and holler ****" time.  Any surgery is serious and there is always a certain amount of discomfort.  Granted, I am compairing it to a rather unplesant experience, but honestly, the Lap RNY  was easy in my opinion.  Yes, its true that men loose faster than women. Just add this to that very long list of reasons why its better to be a man than a woman.

Hard as in painful and difficult to recover from or hard as in able to lose weight after? I had the open RNY when I had a BMI over 50 and co-morbidities of high blood pressure, type two diabetes, high cholesteral and triglycerides, asthma, sleep apnia, joint and muscle pain.  The surgery was my last ditch effort to stay out of the grave after 12 years of uncontrollable weight gain. It was a drastic measure of last resort. It was painfull, risky, costly, lifestyle changing and has life long personal and social consequences with a chance of some other health complications down the road. There is not a day nor a meal that goes by that I am not reminded what I have done to my body. The initial surgery was hard. My followup surgery to repair the large incisional hernia was intensely painfull physically and mentally. Do I regret it? NO. In addition to dropping 130 pounds and eliminating all my co-morbidities it has improved my quality of life tremendously.  Losing weight for the first year was just about automatic. Now I have to still watch my diet and exercise like normal people or I can gain weight. Have a great day. Rich S