Men & Support Groups (Revisited) - Single Bummer

What happened with the chick that over heard you messages...did you call her a flabby hag????
  actually (and if you re-read my post) I thought I very much complimented her ..  (but, it's like I always have said - gals don't complain when guys that look like Robert Redford pay attention to them, but when it's someone not quite as sharp looking ...    oh well)   &:-x)   

I am a little confused, are you wanting  to meet more single women at these meetings or do you want more guys to attend that have had the surgery?  You may need to figure out what it is your wanting to get from these meetings and relay this to the group leaders.The support group that I go to is 85 to 90 percent women. I usually end up talking to some of the ladies and they have lots of questions about my success and I give them my perspective as a man. Some issues are the same no matter if your a man or a woman. Have you ever approached any of the group leaders and voiced your concerns and told them what you would like to get out of the meetings? At the one I go to, a different member of the WLS staff takes a month and each month there is a different topic, whether it be nutrition, fitness or physc problems. It sounds like the ones you go to are pretty loose. Maybe you should suggest that they do a different topic each month. Last but not least if you leave feeling worse than before you went, I wouldn't go. If you are suffering from depression get help, maybe what you are looking for won't be found at a support group meeting.

pan head

  well, both ..  actually ..  !    I just would like to think (hope?) I'll finally meet the WLSer of my dreams gal at one of these meetings ..  but maybe it's just not to happen ..    On second thought, maybe it's better we NOT hook up with a fellow WLS patient ..   I brought up this dilemma at the OH Men's breakout group, i.e. "Is it better to let a prospective partner know or not know about your WLS?"  the consensus there seemed to be that the person should be told, for various reasons, not the least of which was that they will eventualyy find out anyway and then they'll be pizzed you weren't up front with them! (and some gals supposedly think the fact that you have gone through WLS is a kind of turn on, being a "vulnerability" ..   go figure)      As far as letting the leader know about what I want to get out of the meetings, I already get the impression, from things they (and others) are now telling me, they would show me the door, as they don't think the meetings are a place to meet singles ..  &:-x)       btw - congrats on the double century club membership!   Looks like we both need our "certificates"!