Got a date - Nervous Wreck

Hey Guys, I finally got a date of October 23 for my RNY bypass with Dr.Hunter.  I'm so freaked out though, I keep thinking this may be the end of me.  Is this normal?  How did you guys deal with this.  As each day closes in, it seems like I"m trying to find an excuse not to do this. Bobby  

Hi Bobby, For me there was a lot of nevousness and fear before the surgery.  But I had done so much reading and other preparation that I felt I knew what I was getting myself into.  The biggest thing for me was looking at the reasons I was doing this.  I've seen the statistics.  Being morbidly obese what were the chances that I would live long enough to see my children married?  What kind of life was I providing for them? )Daddy, let's go take a bike ride - sorry I'm too tired, or sorry, my knees are huting today). I made my decision based on a lot of things.  I was very aware of possible complications (much more prevelant several years ago than today).  I was very nervous prior to surgery but very determined.  I failed at weight loss so many times (actually really good at losing weight but so much better at putting it back on).  I was ready.  This was my last resort.  My surgery went well and recovery has been good.  I'm much more active now than I've been in years (down 104 lbs so far in a little over 4 months). It's normal to be nervous.  For me, I had to focus on my goals.  Think about why I was doing this and then stick to it.  You'll know in your heart if your ready for this. Best of luck on your journey. Brian

totally normal for you to feel this way.   it won't be the end of you, but rather a new beginning.   I'm not saying it will be easy, it's a long journey, but I can say on this end of the journey that I would do it again.  no question! and that includes some complications that I just went thru 16 months after the surgery dealing with an internal hernia that needed repair. I used to weigh 330.  today i weigh 168.  three less pounds and I will be half the man I used to be.   it's all GOOD! power to you. Joe

Yep it will be the end of you. The end of the fat you that is. Its not an end but a beginning. That bridge to obesity is one that you want to burn! Stay the course brother, you'll be gald you did.