I need dating advice.

I am going out with a gal and another couple on a blind date this weekend.  We are meeting for some mini-golf and will go to dinner after.  The girl is a friend of the wife of a guy that I work with.  It is obviously a casual start to the dating process but I am a little concerned about the whole thing. Here are some questions.  Do I pay for the golf? - Dinner?  Do I bring flowers?  Shave my back?  It has been a while since I have been on an actual date with a stranger.  Actually, I never have.  I have only dated women I knew. Also, I know they have magnum condoms.  Is there anything bigger?  No real reason, just curious. Thanks for any advice Scott

Hey Scott.... I a paying guy...I wld pay golf, and see how she reacts...if things are going well pay for dinner too....No flowers for putt putt, and it's a group date, so no flowers.... don;t shave your back just yet....she may like it....some gilr like ape men be prepared to be intresting, if you like her...but don;t start off with the ice cream story.....unless she is the hawk up a luggie type of girl....then tell her .. have fun russ

Got it.  Try to pay, keep the back hair and no ice pee stories! Thanks

Hey Scott, I'd make an attempt to pay for the golf and dinner.  If it were me, I'd insist on paying for everyone, either for the golf game alone or the dinner alone (guess it depends on your financial situation). Shaving your back and condom advice?  This is a first date right?  I wouldnt worry about it this weekend.  As far as shaving in the future, I was always self consious about my back hair but never shaved it.  In fact, most of the women I dated and/or married didnt have issues with it.  After I moved to South Florida, I became very self consious about it because I was spending so much time on the beach.  So I opted to have it removed by laser.  Cost about 5000 bucks, but it is permanent.  Condoms?  Havent had to worry about that for many years, couldnt help you there. Good luck and enjoy my friend. John

Ah, pay for everyone.  It's possible.  Kind of like, thanks guys for the hook up and take care of everyone. Scott

I'm with John.  Pay for everyone's mini golf.  As for dinner, that is a tough one.  I can't think of a socially acceptable way to pay for her dinner without picking up the tab for all four.   Best to buy dinner for all four.  I agree with the no flowers deal.  I'm no Cassanova, but to me the no. 1 rule in these situations is to ask her questions about herself, look at her when she answers them, and (if at all possible) try to remeber what she said about herself.  Don't tell her anything about previous relationships unless she asks and don't try to feel her up unless you get a clear sign that she wants you to do that.  Sounds like fun.  Please post a report after you go.

I was just planning on looking at her juggs all night.  Does that count as looking "at" her? Scott

You mean that I have to pretend I'm interesetd.  Hmm. Scott

If she's a woofer - don't pay! If she's hot and you think there is a chance to score, split the bill with your friend - there's no reason to foot the entire thing yourself... and it sets a bad precedant. I wouldn't go anywhere too fancy for chow.  Chicks don't like to be "bought".... and they don't respect chumps.  The best way not to get laid is to go throwing a lot of cash at her.  Forget the flowers and the costly meals... that's for later on when you've been bad    Ask her a few questions about herself, and pretend to be interested as she drones on and on.    Don't nod off, and pay attention to the key points.  She will ask you a pointed question or two later to see if you were really listening.  If at all possible, get some hooch into her  When she asks, in a round about way, how much you make... just reply that "you get by ok".  In fact, be vague and give her as little personal info as possible - they like a mystery.  Be confident, and maybe even a little arrogant.  At some point, she's gonna test you to see if you got spine.  Don't agree with everything she says.  Find out if she's got "baggage"  - ex-husband soon to be released from jail?  obscene credit card bills?  history of STD's?  If she says that she likes to be "pampered and spoiled", excuse yourself to go **** and hit the back door running Remember, a first date is just an "interview" to see if you both want a second one.  YOU are just as much a part of the descision making process in this matter as she is. BTW, the "three date rule" applies.  No ***** after the third date and you gotta move on.  Hey!  It's a rough world out there