Serious topic...Anger and Weight Loss

My genetics (being half-Italian) push me towards holding a grudge, and not forgiving. I refuse to allow toxic people into my life, and I will not ever change my mind about that, especially when it comes to my kids.  For example- if grandpa promises my kids that they should keep Saturday open so he can come over and build them a fort, and they tell all their friends about it, and I check daily with grandpa to make sure he is coming over, and he pulls a no show, and when I call him that evening, and the booze hound slurs a half-assed apology, he can fornicate himself with a thorny stick. Another example- the kids go swimming over their aunts house, and she is inside on the computer while my kids are swimming in the pool with her kids (none above the age of 6) and when you ask about it, the excuse is , I'm too busy to watch them, they are fine. Hmmm, you found time to cash your welfare check, don't even get me started on this one. She can fornicate herself with 2 sticks. My wife is a bible-thumping forgive and forget kind of gal. I am the polar opposite. You break your word to my kids, or you put my kids in real danger, you have several hoops to jump through before you will ever be in a postiton to hurt them again. I have no problem calling people out on their behavior, including telling them which part of my anatomy they can kiss. Or even showing them my favorite finger.  My 2 cents.

Hey KD, Keeping the kids from danger, is a biggie to me too...Just like touching a child....no excuses....execution.... Ok question....this is my anger,,,,if my kids were left unattended in a pool....I would be angry.....and whenever I thought about it I would become angry again....to the point that it would distract me.... example....if I was in a good cardio workout...and something made me think of kids being unattended at pool....I would have to stop my workout...the anger would wash over me....is this how you hold a grudge...(i'm talking years later I would still get mad) or is your different? Russ

Russ, I get really pissed off when stuff happens. Then I file that person as a "piece of ****e" in my brain's rolodex, never allowing myself or any loved ones to be harmed by that persons dicketry.  I tend to have a strong will, so I can control my eating, stick to a regimen, and I hold myself to pretty high standards (I shower before coming home after an afternoon at the strip club), and I do have thoughts of "what if..." but I do not let them dictate how I live my life. I have seen way too many people from this board play the victim. If your vicodin disappears when a known drug addict comes over for a visit, why the frig would you let this person in your home? Why would you allow this person around kids? I will tell you a funny story, I found it funny, but most would be mortified. When I was 12 years old, both my parish priest and one of my assistant scoutmasters started to molest boys. The scoutmaster used to drive me home every week from the meetings, and I was an altar boy for the priest. I never saw anything, or had any "moves" put on me. I was 5'7 and 150# at age 12, so perhaps that had something to do with it, but one of the kids I grew up with told me that it must have been good to be so ugly as a kid not even a child molester wanted me. I told him that I may be ugly, but at least my wife can't drive a pickup up my ass, unlike him.  Turn the other cheek, and let it go are common themes, but if you don't call someone out on their bad behavior, how do they know to fix it? If you see a person picking their ass then making a sandwich without washing their hands, you can bet I would say something to them!

"As for family? What’s the stats now-a-days? 65% of all adults grew up in a dysfunctional family?" If 65% of all adults grew up in a dysfunctional family, at that point wouldn't the dysfunctional family be considered the "normal" family?

who came up with that statistic???????, I've never met anyone who said they came from a functional house...everyone has "their story" about how their family was dysfunctional..... Scott

If major surgery doesn't  make one realize his/her mortality, then what will? You realize that God's great design for our bodies cannot be improved upon by any man, and that things taken for granted all our lives were really the design and production of HIM... the Master Surgeon!