Geez...I don't know about this surgery....

In my house - when I cry, I cry alone...  When I'm scared - I am scared alone...  When I need comfort....I hug myself.  Damn....

Bob, Your feelings are normal.  I was a bit nervous before my surgery as well.  It was a comfort to me to know that this board is here for support.  We all went through the same thing. When you post about this 6 months from now, I hope you will stay the surgery is the best thing that ever happened to you. Good luck!

Uh...  Bob in heavy makeup, false eyelashes and a pink poodle??  I might get nauseous!!  

Bob, I just went through it.  5-days post opt.  I was scared, now I don't know what I am, except weak.  But, this too shall pass.  I have all the doubts like, Why couldn't I do it on my own.  I might never have the answer, all I know is that, even though scared this is the path I took.   I believe in the guys on the forum.   They have answered questions after questions and even today they sent me information on my new diet...  Let me be your partner.  I just took the first step for you.  I'll walk beside you.  On my journey I had the Open-R-ny, I only stayed in the hospital 3 days. on the forth I dropped my pain meds as I seem to be ok.  Not pain, but I do have discomfort.  Honestly, I'm getting tired of water sips.  I'd pay $100.00 for a chug a lug of water but I know I can't.   The discomfort we can deal with. Everyday I feel a tad bit better.  I got back from the Hospital on Friday (Stayed home) Saturday and today I have been at my office for over 6 hours.  Now, I do go lay down on a bed my wife made for me in another room.  Yes, I'm weak, but what I'm trying to say is that I'm working through it.  I've already been walking and this morning the mild stone was a complete walk around the block.  Although it might seem like I'm pushing it.  I rest when I need to, do a little paper work when I can, sit at my desk sip, sip, sip.  Get up move.   For me I'm doing ok. This kind of sums up my experience the last few days.  I know we are all different but yet we are all children of God.   My prayers for your continued path is that "The Light of God surrounds you and is now directing you and your surgeons and medical staff and providing a clear path for those to administer to your needs.  The Love of God enfolds you and your surgeons and medical staff knowing that the greatest of all things are Love.  The Power of God is now providing you with the strength that you need to walk your path and God's Power is providing the surgeons and medical staff  with and infinite source of wisdom.  The Presence of God is watching over you as each step you take leads you along the path that God has for you.  Your surgeons and medical staff also with the Presence of God over them is divinely being directed and guided.  Wherever You are God is and all is well. Blessings, my friend Dr. Michael Ray, Ph.D. (USAF Chaplain, retired)

Hi Bob, I can relate to what you are saying. But I wonder if you are like me and part of, well most of my isolation is self imposed. I think it is how I was raised. That a man should just suck it up and tough it out. After 25 years of being married, I think my wife just figures, that is the way I am.  My biggest problem is that my wife will go into mother mode when I am trying to discuss something with her, instead of just listening and talking about what is on my mind. Then when I tell her I don't need another mother she just gets pissed.  As far as WLS we talked about it prior to me going to see the surgeon and her questions were what I thought I would get out of the surgery and why I thought it would be any different than one of the other times I had lost weight to only gain it back. Both very valid questions. I hate when she does that. Luckily for me I had already found this forum and had some answers for her.  She has supported me, in as much as I allow her to. Which is not much. I do the cooking, and I take responsibility for what I put in my mouth and vitamins and all that. She will ask me at times if I have got my water in for the day if we are together and been busy doing something all day. I guess what I am saying she does as much as she can, being the way I am. If this is not the case, " I can't believe I am saying this", you need to share your feelings and concerns with your wife and/or family.  Knowing now what I do, I would say have the surgery for your health, but remember that wont fix your head. Whatever relationship you have with your family, good bad or what ever, will still be the same. pan head

Yep, that's about it.  Thanks for the reminder.  BobM.

I know the lonely feeling even when surrounded by others. To be successful , however, whether it be dieting, exercise, business, pr any other goal you are trying to accomplish,....you have to be willing to go it when there is no one but you and God that seem to know what you are going through or required to get you where yuo want to go.  It is almost as though God is checking in with us to see how serious we are or how willing we are to accomplish the goal/mission.  I have learned to face the toughess battles first so I can fret less and try to this is whats gots to be done to move forward and get on with it.  What I cannot hurry along, try to face it one day at a time and think about tommorrow at this tinme this will all be yesterday's news. Even Christ on the Cross felt abandoned, but he was not. Hope something here helps. Joe 

Hey Bob, the other guys have said it all. Just remember we all go thru the doubts, before and after. As for me, 3 months out this Thursday and I only wish I had done it sooner. I feel so much better now and not just physically. Its a big change you're making and yes there are some risks involved. When I started this journey everyone thought I was crazy. If one more person said "why, you're not that big" I would have really gone "Postal". Now they say, WOW! I didn't recognize you! Its like beign "Born Again" as a Christian, you're starting a new life, a better life. So hang in there, go for it, and remember you are not alone, we're all here cheering for you and our shoulders are ready if you need to "unload". God Bless Don

Bob, Just like many things in life a supporting hand is a comfort. I think that many of us come here for the same reason, Its hard for others to relate to what its like living in our shoes.  Herb

And remember this... Comfort is in the phone book... Under escort services (Happy Ending, anyone?) Seriously, I hope you feel better.