I'm in trouble.....

Hey dude,  I assume you've lost most of your weight by your aka.  You've won the battle against food.  Give yourself a chance, tell your wife you can't do it alone and prove it to her by giving her control of the money and your keys to your cars, start taking cabs or buses, just don't kill anyone.  Ask for help, don't be embarrassed, be scared!  Be afraid enough to do the right thing!  You did not replace binge eating with drinking, you had a drinking problem along with your weight problem - so to say that is still trying to get people to feel sorry for you.  You have multiple problems that run side by side, you defeated one, the weight/eating, now start working on the others.  Is it easy, NO, it is never easy to change.  The easy way is to blame others, kill and be killed by never taking control of your life.  EVERY TIME YOU FEEL LIKE DRINKING TELL SOMEBODY - REDIRECT, OR EVENTUALLY YOU WILL DIE.   If you don't want to take control over your life, stay out of Missouri!

ditto what everyone else says.  And stay out of florida, georgia, alabama, missiissippi, louisiana. I do hope that you help yourself - you need to do it yourself  for yourself- your wife can't do it for you - you have to quit being selfish and be grateful for what you have (and thankful for the terrible things that you could have already done blacking out driving).  shame on you.

how dare you guys say shame on you . like all off us have never had a problem. you know as well as i do we did not get fat by not having coping problems. i know it is not right to drive drunk. i was a first responder for 4 years. i admit that if he really wanted help he should have told us in his real screen name. but how do you judge. i have been around here for 3 years and i know you all don't have it so easy that you don't need help. i will pray for you and him cause god knows i need all the help i can get. i will not judge you. you already know what you should do

What you need to understand is that I'm not judging him on the alcohol abuse.  I have enough alcoholics in my family, I know how devistating it is.  If he wants support getting over the addiction to alcohol, then he needs to do it.  We can be here to support him.   But to come on and say that he'd rather die than go to AA, and that he drinks and drives all the time isn't right.  Drinking and driving is completely and totally INEXCUSABLE!!   How would you feel if this guy goes out and gets sloppy - ass drunk and wipes out your family?  Would you still be so understanding? I don't give a flying fart if I hurt his feelings over feeling that way about drunk driving. I've been drunk before, too, and I never EVER would even CONSIDER risking the lives of everyone else on the road.  It's just common courtesy.   As I stated, and many others have, we support him in his fight against alcohol IF HE WILL TRY TO BREAK THE HABIT.  But we can't do this for him, and we can't make him swallow that assinine pride and get the help he needs.  Only HE can do that. Plus, he HAS to make the choice not to drink and drive.  To use the good common sense that God gave a billy goat and KNOW that he's risking the life of every single other person on the roads he uses. So again I state - if he's serious about quitting, he needs to get the help.  We will be here to support him.   But keep your drunk driving ass off of the west coast.

There is no judging going on here.  I doubt that there is a person here that would not like this individual to get healthy and lead a great life.  The fact is that he came here for help but at the same time said he didn't want help.  That does not make much sense.  There is not a person here that does not need some sort of help or they would not be here.  I thought that in this case a slap in the face might work better than a hug.  Apparantly, you disagree. Scott

You need help, but you already know that.  Please stay out of South Florida.  Good luck to you.

I got no issue with you drinking until you black out BUT for gods sake do it at home so you don't go out and kill a family of four. So you don't leave you wife alone to tend to the family and clean up your messes. A few years ago I thought about killing myself, already did the drunk thing, was so over it. I kept thinking about my kids not having a father and my wife having to deal not with my actions but the impact they would have for years to come. OBVIOUSLY I never did it. You need get control but you know you need help, so find help somewhere before you ruin you life adn possibly many more.

I sure am sorry that I posted this here. Here's my pledge: no more drinking & driving.  You can get your panties unbunched now. As for the rest of it - I retract my request for help.  Think about how OA (same 12 steps as AA) worked for all of you.  I wish a surgeon could cut this out of me, but that won't happen. As far as your requests that I remain out of your backward States, don't worry... there ain't enough booze in Vegas to get me to those ****eholes.  If I ever get a hankering to visit one of the states you list, I'll just save some $ by watching Hee Haw instead. AMF

What exactly were you hoping for? 15 replies and you can't find one positive thing in any of them? OA and AA use the same steps but the problem is very different.  I have to eat, and I either have to eat out or I have to grocery shop and keep food at home to cook.  No one is making you go to bars, you don't have to go to the liquor store once a week but make yourself only buy light beer, and you don't have to keep 30 beers in your fridge but make yourself drink exactly 2 or 3 a night.  The problem is also longer term and the consequences less easily isolated.  If every time I overate I blacked out, got sick for a week, and risked immediate legal/social troubles, I'm pretty sure I could at least string together a few weeks of light lunches.  I'm not saying it's easy to get rid of this problem, or that there might not be slip-ups in your future, but to pretend it's impossible because you were/are a fatty is weak and simplistic. I count myself lucky you've already included my state as an undesirable backwater; I just wish the thousands here like you agreed and y'all could all create an enlightened paradise together.  We're supposed to shower you with sympathy and enabling but we're silly for worrying about the innocents that you endanger?  Please.  This is going to sound sarcastic, but I seriously hope you were drunk when you posted this last message.  Otherwise you're a raging assholic, and that's harder to fix than any of this.

AMF, if you are serious about wanting help (from your original post), contact me through the OH email with your real name and I'd be happy to walk you through some stuff and point you to some help nearby to where you live.  I will certainly keep it all confidential. The anger and frustration means you are close to dealing with it. This is a start. Greg