Wife's diet advice?

At a restuarant, how does your wife help keep you from ordering something stupid without making you mad or embarrising you?  My wife wants to help me, but sometimes I make it hard for her.  Do you and your spouse have any tricks for dealing with this. I know, I know.  It would be better to make all my own good choices, but I sometimes need a little help. 

Scott you answered your own question. YOU should be making your own good choices. What does it say if you have to have someone looking over your shoulder.  My wife would never try to tell me what to order or even suggest I was eating something I shouldn't. I am a grown man, I either make good choices or bad ones and then I have to live with my choices.  I hate to be a hard ass but, just my opinion. pan head

That’s a non-problem for me. Mrs. Dx doesn’t figure into my choosing. She knows only part of the whole RNY Post-Op business And so she defers to me in all matters concerning My Food Choices. My knee jerk reaction is - "Know your own stuff, and make your own choices, Based on having the information in Your Head, not Hers." But, if she’s got the Nutrition savvy in the family, and you haven’t had the time to look into it completely, Then until you do get a handle on nutrition, you’re at her mercy. Did your wife have WLS also? I’ve wondered how spouses might interface if they both had WLS when it came to food choices. Particularly when one does have issues with a food that is fine for the other and such… If she’s not a post-op herself, I’d set some boundaries About what she gets input on and what she doesn’t. Perhaps a simple smile while holding her hand and saying- "I’ve got a Mother already….I need you to be My Wife." Followed with a little kiss. (at least that would play well in a movie…) J Also (and this may seem like the most callous, chauvinist notion, but---) Know that many wives like to make suggestions and recommendations…. Even when you haven’t asked for them, Just because sometime in the past you have asked for their help. No need to get upset by them. A pleasant smile while looking in her eyes Gives the impression that you are actually listening and agreeing, Thus leaving you free to do what you feel is best without even reacting to her input. Men are Pigs! Do what ever you do best, but don’t let it cause you friction. Life is too short to be upset, and too long to just follow the wife’s rules… Best Wishes- Dx

This is pretty much a non-issue for my wife and I. First of all, I really am still, nearly a year out, scared ****less of dumping.  (No pun intended.)  I've only done it a handful of times, and if I have my way, it'll not happen again. Second of all, she eats little enough, that most times we split whatever we're ordering.  Some restaraunts will even split it up for you and put it on seperate plates.  Not that it's a big deal to have my wife eat off of the same plate - just nice to help yiou feel like you've gotten a full meal. On the rare occasion that we want to order our own thing, as I said, I generally make the best choice available.  And about 98% of the time, enjoy what I eat. This has helped me be at -350 lbs in a year.  

My wife is very helpful   She insists I should be eating salads and more vegatables.  I just put her on "mute", and order something "safe" with a high protein content.... usually. DD

All I need to see is the look on her face.  Then we either have a fight and I order whatever I want to at the time or I acquiesce.  Not a big deal any more, but huge pre-surgery.

Hi Scott, My wife and I do not ever fight over what we order in a restaurant.  She has been doing the Weigh****chers thing for about 8 months now and is doing great.  Since I am only able to eat about 3 or 4 oz of meat, we usually order one meal and split it.  I get 3 to 4 oz of meat and so does she.  I get 1/2 of the salad (or a little less) and she gets the other part.  I get 1/2 (or a little less) of the baked potato or vegatable and she gets the other part.  We both get what we need because the big secret is PORTION CONTROL.  I get full and so does she and we never order dessert.   On those rare occasions when we do order our own meal, she knows I make good decisions so she never says anything.  Last night we ate at Olive Garden and I ordered the spaghetti from the child's menu.  I ate a little salad and about 2/3 of the spaghetti and I was full so, I quit.  I never stuff myself any more. Have a great day. No

Hi Scott, Sorry but I gotta be direct here.  You need to step up and take responsibility for what you eat.  While it is helpful to have a supportive wife, it is up to you and no one ele to eat properly.  It is up to you to make the right choices and not eat anything stupid.  Otherwise you need to ask yourself some hard questions such as why did you have the surgery and why are you sabotaging yourself? If you don't know what to eat, then do the research.  This forum can help you with that. My wife is very supportive but pre-WLS, I used to get in arguments with her all the time about my over-eating.  Since WLS, I decide what I will and will not eat.  Even now, I frequently disagree with her and don't follow her advice but it never leads to an argument as she sees that I'm eating healthy.  Sorry be so hard on you but you really need to take charge of your life, including what you eat.  You only live once. - Barry