BRANDON BENNETT are you out there?

HI OH Family and friends.... I am trying to reach Brandon and don't know if he post/lurks here anymore. I'm desperately trying to find him and put him in contact with my son, Christopher.  If any of you maintain communication with Brandon. Would you please let me know that I would like to hear from him. He can PM me - I've PM'd him but no response.  Also, my son Chris needs some support right now. He's 21 and over 400lbs and isn't doing very well. He has a profile here @ TOPHER215 Thanks everyone! Barbi

If Brandon hasn't contacted you after sending him a private message, then posting here will do you no good at all.  Step #1 for anybody to get help for obesity is wanting to get help. Until your son reaches Step #1, Brandon won't be much help to him.

I have to agree with Ron on this one.  This is your third request for someone to make contact with him. It doesn't sound like he is ready for this.  I have yet to see him post here. I am sure all the guys here would offer support to him and answer any questions he has. Sounds to me that you may be pressuring him to have surgery and he is doesn't want it. He has to want to do it for himself and not to make you happy. I am sure you know it is not a quick fix. It is a great tool that can change a persons life, if that person is commited to it. Sounds like Brandon's "no response" is your response.  pan head

Hey guys - I hear you loud and clear and thank you for responding. Chris is not a puter person. He's agreed to creat the profile - but he's just not much into these types of forum for iming for that matter. He lurks here from time to time.  I thought about Brandon because Chris read the atrical in OH's last issue and was impressed  -that and the fact that they're almost identical in height and age. He's had an awesome 2 weeks. He flat out cut away the Soda and Bear and has decided to eliminate carbs. He's down 8lbs and is changing his eating habits. Today we went to Whole foods for lunch and shopping and he impressed me with his label reading. He's slowly getting it. He's increased his water intake and is swimming in the pool @ my neighbor's house. So he's making small changes on his own. I'm DON'T want him to have the surgery.I don't believe @ 21 that he's tried to lose weight.This isn't my choice but he's looking at every option. I just want him to talk to other's out there his own age so he's aware of the total committment needed. I love Christopher THICK or THINK! He's my baby-boy!

I agree - don't pressure him! My wife even said to let him make his own decisions, and to love him the way he is!  Give him any information he asks for, but don't pressure him.  You can't force someone into doing something as life altering as this, especiallyi when they're an adult. Plus, when you think about it - and this is speaking from my experience - all I wanted was someone to love me for who I am and accept me no matter my weight.  I'm sure just about all of us can say that.  Don't try and change him.  You're his mother, and you should love him unconditionally, and not pressure him into changing who he is. I understand you might have his health concerns at heart, but at his age, he's got to make his own decisions. Like Panhead said, if he comes in here and posts, we'll be MORE than happy to give him any information at all - even the embarassing type of information he wouldn't want to ask his mother about - but until he does, there's not much we can do. Good luck!