Really Struggling Here. Men only please, I asked please.

Dan:  Trust me, good day's are a commin. You have no way of knowing how much your life will change after  WLS. I say this because i didnt know myself. I used to be a misserable blob that couldnt walk the 50 feet to the mail box without stoping to rest at least once or twice. now a days I blast out of the house every morning on my way to my construction job (climbing up tall steel buildings) I look now in the mirror and dont recognise the person looking back. the old me was bloated and pale, the new me is tanned and buff. (back off ladies, i know you lurk here waiting to pounce on us reconditioned men) I am already spoken for. Keep posting the jokes, i look forward to them.  Buzzerdbait

Hey Dan, I can relate to your current problems and can only say - All things will pass, my friend. There are four things important in life - family, faith, physical health and work. I have never been a balanced man so I always seemed to have one or two working well while dicking up the others. Once I fix one of them, a different one screws up.  So, I weigh nearly 500 pounds a couple years ago and decide to fix my physical health. I have WLS, change my eating habits and begin to cycle. I lose 275 pounds and my wife files for divorce. Said I spent too much time on my bike and not enough time with her. Huh?? I'm currently in the midst of a divorce and it is indeed tough for all involved including our four kids. I got jettisoned from the house and have been living away from home for the past year. I can only make sure my relationship with the kids remains strong. All things will pass, my friend.  On the employment front, my company recently sold out to a Chinese company. Everyone is jumping ship, including my boss, cause the rumor is they're going to shut down our division. My career has meant everything to me in the past so the possibility of losing my job and not being able to provide for my family is frightening as you can imagine. All things will pass, my friend.  My faith remains strong because I firmly believe God only challenges us with what we are able to handle. All this BS could have happened at a time when I couldn't have dealt with the load but the good Lord waited until I was physically and mentally able to deal with it. Once I lost the weight, I became the old lion I used to be and am ready to take on the world again. Life has become so sweet despite all the problems.  All things will pass, my friend.  Boner

I'm rooting for you! And, I really appreciate those daily jokes! Sometimes I cut/paste them and send them on to my buddies. For now I thought I'd share a quote I've had for a while. I kept thinking of it during recovery.

"We can only appreciate the miracle of a sunrise if we have waited in the darkness."--unknown author.

Dude,

Keep doing what you’re doing by not holding it in, vent here or with someone close to you, just know you’re not alone. Glenn

 

Glenn, Glad You clicked the link! Hope you get through the approval stages with minimal hassles. Jump on in with thoughts, questions, observations... Just a bunch of guys who Had, or Have - Really Deep Navels! Just wanted to say Hey! Best Wishes- Dx

Dan, lots of good advice above.  Just want you to know you're not alone.  I suffer from chronic depression and its a *****  One day at a time and know you have a lot of good buddies up here who are pulling for you. Bobby

Thanks guy's I appreciate all the advice and support.

Hang in there big gun. Better days are ahead. You decided to flush all the turds out of your life at once, eh? That's gotta hurt. Stay strong. A lot of these fellas gave advice much more pertinent and eloquently, than I ever could. All I'll add is, Don't rush into anything on the rebound. Tread water until you get your wind back and are ready to swim again. Two. Your still a Dad. Make the transition as easy as possible for your kids. They didn't ask for any of this. Don't use them to spite your ex.... tempting as it may be. Your still the adult. Don't act like a child. Set the example, you're still the leader of your family. Hang tough, and vent often. Like I said, better days are ahead. DD 

I wish you the best!  I know from experience what you are going through. Divorce seems like the end of the world when you're in the throes of it, and nobody took it harder than I. My daughter was only 4 years old at the time. I beat myself up for alot of years after that. It's when I finally let go and realized I was powerless to change other people that I began finding some peace. You may not realize it now, but things DO get better. I promise!